self-reflection


Why Forgiving Is A Life Changer For Stepmoms

Do you struggle with forgiveness when someone has wronged you? Especially if it’s a snarky remark from your partner’s children or a hateful action directed at you from their former spouse? I know I have a hard time with it, like, on a daily basis. It’s so easy to fall […]

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Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]


How Becoming A Stepmom Made Me Love Myself More

When I first came on the scene in the beginning stages of dating my now-husband, I had very little concept as to how dating a single father and becoming a stepmom would ultimately change my life. The biological mother of my now-stepson didn’t even acknowledge my presence the first time […]

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Slow and Steady…Goal Setting that Works

Being a wife and mom took so much of my energy for so long, I lost who I was. I could tell you everything about anyone in my household, yet could not describe a hobby or interests of my own. It took lots of work to re-introduce myself to who […]


Goal Setting That Works

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions? How many have lasted beyond the first week in January? How many of them were building on celebrating your wins? How many were based around correcting your perceived faults? If you’re like most of us – the majority of your New […]

New Years Resolutions

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All the Guts, None of the Glory

  The story of my life. Put the work in and watch my stepchildren’s biological mother take credit in any way she can. Being a stepparent requires you to fill a large role quietly. I stubbornly fought the idea because I wanted to get credit for all the work required […]


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

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