high-conflict


Why Forgiving Is A Life Changer For Stepmoms

Do you struggle with forgiveness when someone has wronged you? Especially if it’s a snarky remark from your partner’s children or a hateful action directed at you from their former spouse? I know I have a hard time with it, like, on a daily basis. It’s so easy to fall […]

Pensive Stepmom

Beware The Expert – Finding Help That Fits

Stepparenting and becoming a happy step-family can be hard. We sometimes don’t even know what we don’t know! It’s human nature and common sense to reach out and try to find some help. Sometimes that help is sought from family and friends, and sometimes we decide it’s time to call […]


How I Coped With a High Conflict Beginning as a Stepmother

The Top Five Realisations which brought me a Happier Stepfamily Existence For many of us, becoming a stepmother is a crash course in learning to cope with high conflict and volatile situations. Such conflict often exists from the very beginning of our stepmothering journey (no rest for the wicked), and […]

Woman Thinking

Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


How Well-Meaning Community Professionals Assist in Parental Alienation

Recently, I was reminded of why I hate talking about parental alienation. A 30–minute session with the benefits rep at work left me feeling victimized and helpless all over again. Questions that ensued from such a simple interaction like –Did you call the police? or Why didn’t you call DFS?– left me feeling deflated and left her convinced that I’m not only crazy but also most likely a child […]

Parental Alienation Court Hearing

Parental Alienation Concept

We Stopped Fighting Parental Alienation and Walked Away

Somewhere along the way, we made a conscious choice to preserve ourselves. To cut them loose. To let them go. For good. No more war. No more deceit. No more what ifs. Just gone. It was freeing. And painful. And soul wrenching. And there are days I can’t begin to […]


Parental Alienation Fallout

At the ripe age of 5-years-old, I announced to my mother that I would never birth my own children.  Fast forward thirty-nine years and turns out, I was right.  This year would have been my tenth year being the stepmother to Lyle, Mariam and Katherine.  Unfortunately, despite my husband and […]

Parental Alienation Concept