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Why Forgiving Is A Life Changer For Stepmoms

Do you struggle with forgiveness when someone has wronged you? Especially if it’s a snarky remark from your partner’s children or a hateful action directed at you from their former spouse? I know I have a hard time with it, like, on a daily basis. It’s so easy to fall […]

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What About Me? Step/mums and Family Holiday Traditions

It’s amping up to ‘that’ time of year. Holiday stress is a thing. It’s more often a thing for women. It’s often a very different kind of thing for step/mums. Traditionally women are the keepers of family traditions, the holiday planners, they are the ones to whom the responsibility for […]


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

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5 Way to Support Someone Experiencing Parental Alienation

Chances are, right now you know someone experiencing parental alienation and don’t know it.  If you’ve never heard of it, consider yourself lucky.  Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse that tears away at the very core of the relationship between parent and child.  Those going through it feel out of control, […]


15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling as a stepmom and needed […]

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The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]


What I Learned from Being Roommates with My Stepdaughter’s Mom

My stepdaughter’s mom, stepdad, and baby sister just moved out after living with my husband and me for three months. Yep, you read that right. My husband’s ex-wife and I lived under the same roof for a quarter of a year. I had to learn a few lessons the hard […]