High Conflict Exes


What About Me? Step/mums and Family Holiday Traditions

It’s amping up to ‘that’ time of year. Holiday stress is a thing. It’s more often a thing for women. It’s often a very different kind of thing for step/mums. Traditionally women are the keepers of family traditions, the holiday planners, they are the ones to whom the responsibility for […]

Stressed Stepmum at Christmas

Beware The Expert – Finding Help That Fits

Stepparenting and becoming a happy step-family can be hard. We sometimes don’t even know what we don’t know! It’s human nature and common sense to reach out and try to find some help. Sometimes that help is sought from family and friends, and sometimes we decide it’s time to call […]


How I Coped With a High Conflict Beginning as a Stepmother

The Top Five Realisations which brought me a Happier Stepfamily Existence For many of us, becoming a stepmother is a crash course in learning to cope with high conflict and volatile situations. Such conflict often exists from the very beginning of our stepmothering journey (no rest for the wicked), and […]

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Separated Family - Parental Alienation

When the Cult Leader is Your Parent

If they’d left to go live in the South of France or maybe on a yacht in the Caribbean, their disappearance from our lives would maybe make more sense. But for many of us who have lost our children to parental alienation, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Dr. […]


When You Wish You Knew Your Stepchildren – Our Parental Alienation Nightmare

My stepchildren are brainwashed and there is not one thing I can do about it.  Family court perpetuates it, their small town and maternal family members enable it, and the lawyers profit off it. The only thing I can do is speak about how parental alienation has affected the life […]

Heart Puzzle Joining Together

Parental Alienation Christmas Concept

Parental Alienation and the Gift of Time

Ten years ago this Christmas, Jack and I gave my three stepchildren the ultimate gift – a new home.  Just months before, we’d secretly bought a two-story house nestled on a huge lot with a creek running on the back side.  We spent weeks renovating and decorating it down to the very […]


Parental Alienation: Our Grief Has a Name

They didn’t die, but there are days I think it might’ve been easier. At least we’d have closure, a definite ending, something.  Instead, we’re grieving children that made a million memories here in this home, under that tree in our front yard who now live down the street and have new […]

Grieving Couple