Couples


The Premenstrual Stepmother – 6 Ways to Save Your Stepfamily and Your Sanity!

Is PMS secretly sabotaging your stepfamily harmony? If you are currently struggling with your stepfamily, confused as to what the problem is and desperate to find a middle ground, you might find that PMS is secretly sabotaging your stepfamily life. Being a woman can be tough. Being a stepmum can […]

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When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]


Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]

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Why Your Intimate Relationship Is the Foundation for Your Stepfamily Success

Stepfamily success relies on the strength of the step-couple. According to Susan Wisdom, who wrote “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family”, the success of the stepcouple relies on how well the couple connects, communicates, co-parents in their own home. How well the couple clarifies how […]


Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]

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Step-Families in a Pandemic – Coping with Covid-19

Covid-19, or the Corona virus, is big news around the world. Schools are closing, borders are closing, toilet paper stocks are at all time lows. This is the perfect storm for step-family conflict. The support groups I am part of our blowing up with stories of parents wanting trips cancelled […]


Stepcouple Strong Goals

It’s good to have goals to work towards. They give you a sense of accomplishment when you reach them. Having goals means that you value what you have – yet there is room for improvement. It prevents stagnation, even nature does not allow stagnation. Major companies set quarterly goals and […]

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