Anita Inglis


Gifting Dilemmas in the Step-Family Dynamic

Gifting and balancing wants, needs, money spent, etc can be a challenge when all of the kids have the same parents and live 100% of the time in the same house. Add in extra stepparents, extended families, different lifestyles, and economic capacity, is it any wonder this time of year […]


Stressed Stepmum at Christmas

What About Me? Step/mums and Family Holiday Traditions

It’s amping up to ‘that’ time of year. Holiday stress is a thing. It’s more often a thing for women. It’s often a very different kind of thing for step/mums. Traditionally women are the keepers of family traditions, the holiday planners, they are the ones to whom the responsibility for […]


Beware The Expert – Finding Help That Fits

Stepparenting and becoming a happy step-family can be hard. We sometimes don’t even know what we don’t know! It’s human nature and common sense to reach out and try to find some help. Sometimes that help is sought from family and friends, and sometimes we decide it’s time to call […]


Woman feeling sad

When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]


Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]

Woman Thinking

Pensive Woman

Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]


Step-Families in a Pandemic – Coping with Covid-19

Covid-19, or the Corona virus, is big news around the world. Schools are closing, borders are closing, toilet paper stocks are at all time lows. This is the perfect storm for step-family conflict. The support groups I am part of our blowing up with stories of parents wanting trips cancelled […]