How to Communicate with Bio Mom: Crafting Your Stepmom Philosophy

My best friend is my stepdaughter’s mom. Yep, you read that right. What’s the question that follows that confession every single time? “How in the world did you get to that point?!” My biggest recommendation for helping other stepmoms replicate our relationship is to develop a strong sense of self […]

Stepmom Writing

Why Blended Can Feel More Like Broken

Changing the words used to describe a problem does not necessarily change the underlying issue. In fact, I worry that it can actually discredit the true experiences that real people are living. We are a “blended” family, but sometimes it feels more broken than blended. My husband and I got married […]

Achieving Peace in Your Family: How a Mindfulness Practice Can Help You Thrive in Your Stepmom Role

Being a stepmom forces us to deal with so many things that are out of our control. Crazy ex-wives, different rules and influences from another household, and the impact of those external forces on our family.   Being assertive and standing up for what we believe is important in life, but […]

Woman Meditating

Pensive Stepmom

How Intentional Reflection Improves Your Stepmom Life

What is Intentional Reflection? Intentional reflection is making a plan to reflect on a regular basis. By making a plan and being intentional about reflecting, you will create a habit of reflecting on your stepmom role, which will improve your stepmom life in a few key ways. Benefits of Intentional […]

Tales of an Almost-Mom

The first time I met Caleb and Alex, they hid under their beds. At the time, I knew so little about kids that I had to be coaxed along in order to hunt for them. “Maybe they’re in their bedroom,” James said, winking. I was nervous, and I wished they […]

Mother and Son

The Passionate Stepmom

I’m a mom and a stepmom. I know both jobs are two of the hardest, sometimes most thankless jobs on the planet. But one of those roles has been more of a personal challenge for me than the other. Can you guess which one it is? Yup — it’s the stepmom one. […]