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Why My Stepmomming is Different to My Momming

Someone said to me a few months ago; ‘I catch glimpses of myself, which is nice’ as we discussed family life and how it’s possible to be so absorbed in it you can fade away, almost entirely. The sentiment of this rang true and I felt uneasy having settled for […]

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Woman Thinking

Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]


Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


Stepmother

Madrastra – The Evil Stepmother in Latino Culture

At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he told me not to use the word ‘madrastra’ (stepmother, in Spanish) because it sounded ‘really bad’. Never did I think to look it up in a dictionary until now, 7 years later. What I found shocked me so much that […]


“I Didn’t Sign Up for This!” Six Tips for Step-Parenting During a Pandemic

I’m writing this from the corner of my closet, wedged between shoes and a stack of purses, trying to keep the laptop from sliding off my knees as I reposition the suitcase currently digging into my back. I’m sitting in this unusual location because I’ve discovered it’s the only place […]

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Happy Woman

How Becoming A Stepmom Made Me Love Myself More

When I first came on the scene in the beginning stages of dating my now-husband, I had very little concept as to how dating a single father and becoming a stepmom would ultimately change my life. The biological mother of my now-stepson didn’t even acknowledge my presence the first time […]


Slow and Steady…Goal Setting that Works

Being a wife and mom took so much of my energy for so long, I lost who I was. I could tell you everything about anyone in my household, yet could not describe a hobby or interests of my own. It took lots of work to re-introduce myself to who […]

Woman Relaxing and Writing a Schedule