An Open Letter to the Bio Mom

The relationship I have with my stepchildren’s bio mom is very simple. It basically consists of having minimum contact with each other. The only time we talk is if it has to do with the children. This is what works for us. I have always had an open door policy […]

Woman Writing

Stepmom Writing

How to Communicate with Bio Mom: Crafting Your Stepmom Philosophy

My best friend is my stepdaughter’s mom. Yep, you read that right. What’s the question that follows that confession every single time? “How in the world did you get to that point?!” My biggest recommendation for helping other stepmoms replicate our relationship is to develop a strong sense of self […]

Why Blended Can Feel More Like Broken

Changing the words used to describe a problem does not necessarily change the underlying issue. In fact, I worry that it can actually discredit the true experiences that real people are living. We are a “blended” family, but sometimes it feels more broken than blended. My husband and I got married […]

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Achieving Peace in Your Family: How a Mindfulness Practice Can Help You Thrive in Your Stepmom Role

Being a stepmom forces us to deal with so many things that are out of our control. Crazy ex-wives, different rules and influences from another household, and the impact of those external forces on our family.   Being assertive and standing up for what we believe is important in life, but […]

How Intentional Reflection Improves Your Stepmom Life

What is Intentional Reflection? Intentional reflection is making a plan to reflect on a regular basis. By making a plan and being intentional about reflecting, you will create a habit of reflecting on your stepmom role, which will improve your stepmom life in a few key ways. Benefits of Intentional […]

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Mother and Son

Tales of an Almost-Mom

The first time I met Caleb and Alex, they hid under their beds. At the time, I knew so little about kids that I had to be coaxed along in order to hunt for them. “Maybe they’re in their bedroom,” James said, winking. I was nervous, and I wished they […]