stepfamily dynamics

Why I Don’t Want My Daughter to Grow Up to Be a Stepmom

I love my family. My husband is thoughtful, helpful, and has the patience of a saint. My stepdaughter is full of joy, silly jokes, and cure-all hugs. My in-laws are kind, accepting, and understanding. But despite all of the love and happiness, there’s also a lot of darkness. Why I […]

Rear View of Young Girl

Christmas Decorations

Handling the Holidays Like a Stepparent Pro

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of light, love, and happiness, or not. There are so many complicated layers to stepfamily life. We not only deal with the stressors everyone else does (hosting family dinners, staying on budget while finding that perfect gift for the mail carrier), […]

Employee of the Week

Imagine, if you will, that you work in a business where as part of the normal workflow you must work every other week at a different location. You pack up all your stuff – you might even need to put it in a large briefcase on wheels – and go […]

Woman at Work

Stepmother and Stepdaughter Reading Together

The Harsh Realities of Stepparenting

My mother-in-law is a wonderful, caring, nurturing woman. She would give you the shirt off her back in a heartbeat. To boot, she’s never met a stranger – can you imagine what kind of love that means for those of us in her family? Indescribable. But one day she said something so offensive […]

Stepparenting: An Exercise in Taking What We Can Get When We Can Get It

  My stepdaughter, a freshman in high school, began taking some first steps into the realm of young adulthood and special occasions by recently attending her homecoming dance at school. It seems like a lifetime ago since I attended my own school formals; but, I can still recall the excitement […]

Stepmom and Stepdaughter Smiling

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10 Ways Our Family is More “Broken” Than “Blended”

Our society is so politically correct these days. But what if our insistence on using “positive” words actually detracts from the truth? What are we covering when we insist that our families are blended, instead of broken? For me, I’d much rather err on the side of reality, even if that means […]