self-reflection


The Accidental Stepmom

When I was a little girl, I daydreamed about what my life would be like as an adult. I imagined living somewhere interesting and in a large, beautiful home. I also imagined that I would have a house full of children, perhaps eight of them, and we would have a […]

Pensive Stepmom

Pensive Stepmom

The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]


3 Tips for Stepmoms to Recover from Terrible Days

We all have terrible, no good, and downright atrocious days as human beings. As a wife, mother, and stepmother I have plenty of those days myself. The difference for stepmoms is that, quite often, there are not many people around us who can relate to our feelings or who have […]

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Pensive Stepmom

How Intentional Reflection Improves Your Stepmom Life

What is Intentional Reflection? Intentional reflection is making a plan to reflect on a regular basis. By making a plan and being intentional about reflecting, you will create a habit of reflecting on your stepmom role, which will improve your stepmom life in a few key ways. Benefits of Intentional […]


Too Close to the Fire: Why a Stepparent Sometimes Needs to Step Back to Appreciate the Beauty

I’ve stepparented for over six years; long enough for six children in a vehicle, around a table, and as a part of everyday life to feel “normal.” It’s hard to recall a time when my life only included my two children. I’ve seen these kids, his and mine, grow from […]

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Stepdad

An Open Letter to my Stepfather

To my Stepfather: Thank you for sticking with me. I was a teenager when we met. You came into my life at a time of change, attempted independence, and confusion over my parents’ separation. Anger greeted you for the first time. Rebellion refused to eat dinner with you and Mom. […]