self-reflection


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

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The Chores of Self-Care

It seems counter-intuitive to lump chores and self-care in the same sentence, right?!? Isn’t self-care about fun, luxury, the chocolate cake in the bath? What is fun or luxurious about chores? For a long time I thought self-care was about indulgence. Indulging my wounded child, not doing the things that […]


Digging Deeper into Forgiveness

For this blog, I thought that I would dig deeper into the Magic 7 from a previous blog of mine. In particular, I want to take a look at the last 2 points:  Learning to repair and letting it go. Here’s what I said in the last post on the two […]

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Travel as Self-Care

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult experiences in life.  The emotional rollercoaster is quite simply, exhausting! And after the storm, when you’re now coming to terms with your new life and new title (divorcee, yikes) you also have to adjust to your new financial circumstances. For […]


Running As Self-Care

Any scroll through your Facebook newsfeed can show you inspiring and transformative journeys people have experienced through running. Most recently circulating the interwebs has been the story of two women who went from strangers to friends as they finished the Pittsburgh Marathon together, hand in hand. I own a running […]


Stepmom in Thought

Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]


The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]

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