self-care


But First…Me: The Importance of Self-Care

Moms wear many hats. It doesn’t matter if you’re a mom, stepmom, single mom, adoptive mom, foster mom; maybe you’ve found yourself joined together in matrimony to a rather large man-child also referred to as a husband, (love you dear) or all of the above. If you’re a mom in […]

Woman Relaxing Reading a Book

Woman hands together symbolizing prayer and gratitude

Being an Empath in a Blended Family

Do you often find yourself retreating to your room to replenish your energy? Do you easily pick up on others energy? Do you feel exhausted after being in the presence of a particular person? These are all indications that you are an empath and sensitive to energy. This means that […]


The Restorative Power of “Me Time”

This past Sunday afternoon, we hosted a little gathering of friends and their kids to celebrate my daughter’s second birthday. That morning, the five of us were in the house (me, hubs, our little one, and my stepkids) and everyone was under my feet. Well, that’s what it felt like. […]

Stepmom Relaxing

Smiling Stepdad and Teen Son

The Stepdad, Pillows And Fish Tacos

I was a 14-year old 8th grader. I put my finger in my stepdad’s face. He was twice my size. We were in our new, San Diego living room…his living room. And with everything I had, I spouted,   “FUCK YOU!”  I was ready to punch him. I wanted to fight […]


Contending with Chaos to Create Christmas Peace

Now that the season of bright lights and big expectations is here, it is a good time to share a few ways to help you manage the stress and anxiety this time of year often brings for stepfamilies. There are so many competing priorities and responsibilities. We often find ourselves stretched with […]

Stepmom Achieving Peace at Christmas

Family with Newborn Baby

Blended with Baby

If you’re reading this you are not the first family. You are likely the second family, the blended family. You may have found your way into the family unit in the same way I did; single with no children of my own. Or perhaps you brought your own children from […]


5 Things You Need to Know if You’re Dating a Man with Kids

As children, we often grow-up listening to fairy tales and promises of a happily-ever-after. However, with the high divorce rates these days, it may very well be that your prince charming turns out to be a divorced dad.   Getting into a relationship with a man who has kids means that […]

Stepfamily Having Fun