self-care


Being an Empath in a Blended Family

Do you often find yourself retreating to your room to replenish your energy? Do you easily pick up on others energy? Do you feel exhausted after being in the presence of a particular person? These are all indications that you are an empath and sensitive to energy. This means that […]

Woman hands together symbolizing prayer and gratitude

Stepmom Relaxing

The Restorative Power of “Me Time”

This past Sunday afternoon, we hosted a little gathering of friends and their kids to celebrate my daughter’s second birthday. That morning, the five of us were in the house (me, hubs, our little one, and my stepkids) and everyone was under my feet. Well, that’s what it felt like. […]


The Stepdad, Pillows And Fish Tacos

I was a 14-year old 8th grader. I put my finger in my stepdad’s face. He was twice my size. We were in our new, San Diego living room…his living room. And with everything I had, I spouted,   “FUCK YOU!”  I was ready to punch him. I wanted to fight […]

Smiling Stepdad and Teen Son

Stepmom Achieving Peace at Christmas

Contending with Chaos to Create Christmas Peace

Now that the season of bright lights and big expectations is here, it is a good time to share a few ways to help you manage the stress and anxiety this time of year often brings for stepfamilies. There are so many competing priorities and responsibilities. We often find ourselves stretched with […]


Blended with Baby

If you’re reading this you are not the first family. You are likely the second family, the blended family. You may have found your way into the family unit in the same way I did; single with no children of my own. Or perhaps you brought your own children from […]

Family with Newborn Baby

Stepfamily Having Fun

5 Things You Need to Know if You’re Dating a Man with Kids

As children, we often grow-up listening to fairy tales and promises of a happily-ever-after. However, with the high divorce rates these days, it may very well be that your prince charming turns out to be a divorced dad.   Getting into a relationship with a man who has kids means that […]


Dealing With Those Big Emotions

I have always been a sensitive person and whenever I have felt something, I have felt ‘it’ in a big way. So on my journey as stepmum, whatever feelings I had to deal with I felt with such force that I remember thinking one day ‘I can’t keep this up!’ […]

Woman Relaxing