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Light at the End of the Tunnel

You probably feel like there are days that you are alone and that no one could possibly understand what your life is like. That you’ve stopped complaining about the little things and just go through the motions. You wonder if you’ll ever be seen or if your opinion really matters. […]

Stepmom kissing the sun

Stepmom drawing a heart in the sand

Journey to a Happy Heart

I recently asked the question on social media what words people associate with stepfamily, stepmom and step kids. It is incredible to me the amount of negative word associations with these phrases. Words came up like the other, difficult, adjustment, wicked, evil, different decisions, scary but fun, would I do […]


Throwing Myself a Pity Party After this Shouldy Week

The shoulds kicked my butt this week. I was feeling sorry for myself and I even threw myself a pity party. It was a rough week. I hate to admit it, but I had a very negative energy, which only escalated from bad to worse. I’ve always considered myself an optimist. I […]


Stepmom relaxing at Christmas

The Steplife 12 Days of Christmas Tips for Holiday Peace!

Tip 1: Plan in Advance It is often the ‘unknown’ that causes stress, so sit down with your partner and make a plan – be sure to coordinate with the biological mom. Tip 2: Loosen Schedules (a little bit) We can get very ‘schedule focused’, especially when we see kids […]


Five Steps to Survive the Holidays and Save Your Sanity

I’ve fixed the holidays for you.  You’re welcome.  Read on.  Perhaps fixed is a touch overstating things, but the plan below will make you feel better – I promise. It involves half-assing and wine. Step One: Figure out the schedule early “What?” you say. “We have a schedule. It’s already […]

Couple toasting at Christmas