relationships


Beware The Expert – Finding Help That Fits

Stepparenting and becoming a happy step-family can be hard. We sometimes don’t even know what we don’t know! It’s human nature and common sense to reach out and try to find some help. Sometimes that help is sought from family and friends, and sometimes we decide it’s time to call […]


Frank Savala

Changing The Narrative: No More ‘Evil Stepparents’

What does it mean to ‘Change the Narrative’? One definition I’ve read says, “Changing the narrative is synonymous with changing the story. This means either something has happened that changes things or you are making something happen that changes things. Or, you are choosing to focus on something else that happened which […]


The Premenstrual Stepmother – 6 Ways to Save Your Stepfamily and Your Sanity!

Is PMS secretly sabotaging your stepfamily harmony? If you are currently struggling with your stepfamily, confused as to what the problem is and desperate to find a middle ground, you might find that PMS is secretly sabotaging your stepfamily life. Being a woman can be tough. Being a stepmum can […]

Premenstrual Woman

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Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]


Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


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Why Your Intimate Relationship Is the Foundation for Your Stepfamily Success

Stepfamily success relies on the strength of the step-couple. According to Susan Wisdom, who wrote “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family”, the success of the stepcouple relies on how well the couple connects, communicates, co-parents in their own home. How well the couple clarifies how […]


Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]

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