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Making the Most out of Mother’s Day

Oooooh it’s that time of year again where many stepmoms are looking inward to figure out their place in the home. For some, this day can be a day where they are pampered with gifts and with love.  While other stepmoms feel rejected and doubt themselves in their role in […]

Stepfamily Enjoying Outdoors

Father and Daughter Hugging

Saying Goodbye: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Years ago, when we first began sharing custody, I dreaded the time my children were with their father. I missed them terribly, and transitions triggered all my grief and guilt about our divorce. I felt like a part-time parent and the days were excruciatingly long. As the time came for […]

Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day […]

Teenagers Packing

Stepmum holding a heart in her hands

Why Valentine’s Should Be for Our Men Too

February is the month of love. For many women, it’s a time for our partners to shower us with gifts. And it’s a time for us to show our partners how much we love them.  However, the perception out there is that Valentine’s Day is more for the women.  It’s […]

The Ugly Truth about Blended Families

Last night, as we settled into bed with a glass of wine, Gabe shared that Caden had recently hurt his feelings.  He’d planned an outing he thought Caden would like, and Caden’s response hadn’t met his expectations.  It was one of a long list of disappointments my sweet husband had suffered this […]

Stepfamily trying to blend their families together

Couple drinking in front of the fire

Recapturing Christmas Magic

This is the time of year with plenty of gatherings for friends and family that create opportunities for fun and frivolity. A time to celebrate, share, give and receive. It’s joyous and magical. But for some, it shines a spotlight on everything wrong and on those things missing. It can […]