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The 4 S’s – Personality Types in Step-Families

If our children are to approve of themselves, they must first see that we approve of ourselves.(Maya Angelou ‘Rainbow in the Cloud’ 2014) In my experience, one of the things that helps get me back on track when I am feeling I can do nothing ‘right’, is to remind myself […]


Gardening My Way to Self-Care

I aim to give myself a little self-care time each day, I do this by choosing to garden, every day. Gardening doesn’t require a huge amount of space. A small garden, or patio garden still needs care to thrive.. Stepping outside at least once a day to tend to and […]


5 Ways to Include Your Stepchild in Your Wedding Ceremony

The day after I married my wife, we quickly made the trek back from Charlottesville, VA where the wedding was, to home northwestern PA so that my stepdaughter could get back to her other mom. During the drive, I kept staring down at my wedding back and then glancing both […]

Wedding Decorations

Family Joining Puzzle Pieces

Time and the Stepfamily

I’ve always believed that, with the right attitude and perseverance, just about anything is possible! This is probably why I imagined that with two willing hearts and a can-do spirit that becoming a stepmom and blending families would be a relatively simple process. I liked my husband’s children, and they […]


7 Signs Your Boyfriend is a Great Dad

Parenthood. It’s scary, it’s rewarding, it’s nothing you’ve ever done before. Having kids wasn’t on your cards yet, or maybe even ever, but now you find yourself dating someone with kids. Here, here! That was me 7 years ago. I raise a glass of wine to you because life is […]

Father and Son Playing

Happy Couple Sitting on the Couch

10 Tips for Healthy Stepcoupling

Marriage is tough stuff. It takes intentional work to keep the fire that brought you together burning. There will be many times when the fires burn bright and strong and there will be many times when the embers are barely visible or felt. Re-marriage adds extra layers of complications and […]


Why Blended Can Feel More Like Broken

Changing the words used to describe a problem does not necessarily change the underlying issue. In fact, I worry that it can actually discredit the true experiences that real people are living. We are a “blended” family, but sometimes it feels more broken than blended. My husband and I got married […]