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When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

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How Couples Can Work on Restoring Positive Emotional Feelings

I have a confession to make, writing these blogs have been good for me and subsequently my relationship with my husband.  This seriously helps me dig deeper in my own life, marriage and in how I show up and am with my husband. Also, what happens in our relationship becomes inspiration […]


The Chores of Self-Care

It seems counter-intuitive to lump chores and self-care in the same sentence, right?!? Isn’t self-care about fun, luxury, the chocolate cake in the bath? What is fun or luxurious about chores? For a long time I thought self-care was about indulgence. Indulging my wounded child, not doing the things that […]


Kids’ Rooms in the Step-Dynamic

One of the reasons I wanted to contribute a lifestyle section to Stepparent magazine was because there are so many nuances and subtleties to stepfamily life that aren’t covered by conventional lifestyle advice. One of these is kids’ rooms, especially kids who aren’t full time in your home. How do […]


The 4 S’s – Personality Types in Step-Families

If our children are to approve of themselves, they must first see that we approve of ourselves.(Maya Angelou ‘Rainbow in the Cloud’ 2014) In my experience, one of the things that helps get me back on track when I am feeling I can do nothing ‘right’, is to remind myself […]


Gardening My Way to Self-Care

I aim to give myself a little self-care time each day, I do this by choosing to garden, every day. Gardening doesn’t require a huge amount of space. A small garden, or patio garden still needs care to thrive.. Stepping outside at least once a day to tend to and […]


I’m Not A Perfect Stepmom

No stepmom likes to think of herself as bitter, angry, or resentful. No stepmom likes the idea of other people seeing her in that light either. A lot of people have referred to me as, “the best stepmom in the world,” or, “the perfect stepmom.” Maybe I am all of […]

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