perspective


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

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Woman Writing in her Journal

Journal Out the Stepmom Stressors

Eight Reasons Why Journaling Is Good For You Journaling is good for you, and your relationships. Unlike your partner and your friends, the pages in your journal will never grow weary of listening to you lament about stepparenting. Or anything else for that matter. The next time you find yourself […]


Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]

Stepmom in Thought

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The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]


Things I Wish My Stepchild’s Mom Knew: a Letter to BM

I am often discredited as a stepmom blogger because my relationship with K’s mom is so great. I take very little credit for our positive relationship; that was all Amanda, K’s biological mother (BM). She has chosen to invite me into her daughter’s life and treat me as an equal […]

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Pensive Stepmom

The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]


3 Tips for Stepmoms to Recover from Terrible Days

We all have terrible, no good, and downright atrocious days as human beings. As a wife, mother, and stepmother I have plenty of those days myself. The difference for stepmoms is that, quite often, there are not many people around us who can relate to our feelings or who have […]

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