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Throwing Myself a Pity Party After this Shouldy Week

The shoulds kicked my butt this week. I was feeling sorry for myself and I even threw myself a pity party. It was a rough week. I hate to admit it, but I had a very negative energy, which only escalated from bad to worse. I’ve always considered myself an optimist. I […]


Couple drinking in front of the fire

Recapturing Christmas Magic

This is the time of year with plenty of gatherings for friends and family that create opportunities for fun and frivolity. A time to celebrate, share, give and receive. It’s joyous and magical. But for some, it shines a spot light on everything wrong and on those things missing. It […]


The Steplife 12 Days of Christmas Tips for Holiday Peace!   Featured Today!

Tip 1: Plan in Advance It is often the ‘unknown’ that causes stress, so sit down with your partner and make a plan – be sure to coordinate with the biological mom. Tip 2: Loosen Schedules (a little bit) We can get very ‘schedule focused’, especially when we see kids […]

Stepmom relaxing at Christmas

Couple talking

How to Communicate with Your Partner to Achieve Peace and Sustain your Sanity

Several stepmoms are having the exact same problem. We feel as though the ex-wife has a front row seat into our private lives and relationship. Sometimes I felt as though the ex-wife was a puppeteer pulling the strings in our lives and my husband wasn’t preventing this intrusion. I experienced […]


7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – PART 2

PART 2 4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a voluntary process to let go of negative feelings or bitterness.  The key here is the word VOLUNTARY. It’s your choice and chore to let go of offenses against you and move on.  This constitutes change in you personally and change is something most […]

Couple smiling

Couple smiling

7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – Part 1

When I divorced from my ex over eight years ago I knew I wanted to remarry.  I desired companionship and closeness with another individual.  But, I had certain “qualifications” that I was looking for in a new partner.  One “qualification” was that he would have children.  A man with children […]