parenting


When “Step” Means Step Back

  I love to laugh. Laughing is my favorite. And I’ve been told on more than one occasion that my laugh is quite recognizable for its volume and intensity. So the day my husband said, “It’s good to hear that laugh again”, it hit me. Time to take stock. What […]

Stressed Stepmom

Stepmom Thinking

Dear Stepmoms, It’s Okay To Let Go Sometimes (And Here’s How)

“Just let it go!” Easier said than done for most of us. “Letting go” is about much more than simply acting like something doesn’t bother you anymore. It’s about consciously moving on without allowing counter-productive thoughts to clutter your mind and essentially consume your life. There will come a point […]


All Mothers Matter

I watched my grandmother die today. She was nearly 93, at the end of a long and storied life, and she had no pain. My mother and I were with her, alone together in the room as she left us. In offering condolences, the hospice workers commented on how sweet […]

Mother and adult daughter

Stepfamily Enjoying Outdoors

Making the Most out of Mother’s Day

Oooooh it’s that time of year again where many stepmoms are looking inward to figure out their place in the home. For some, this day can be a day where they are pampered with gifts and with love.  While other stepmoms feel rejected and doubt themselves in their role in […]


Their Stepmum is More Exciting Than You and You HAVE to Accept That

New family. It’s not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imaging how your life might be as a grown up. You don’t ever really want to end up sharing your own children’s weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact […]

Stepmum chasing Stepson

Father and Daughter Hugging

Saying Goodbye: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Years ago, when we first began sharing custody, I dreaded the time my children were with their father. I missed them terribly, and transitions triggered all my grief and guilt about our divorce. I felt like a part-time parent and the days were excruciatingly long. As the time came for […]