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A Message for Partners on Mother’s Day: What Stepmoms Want You to Know

I’ve known my stepchildren for over 7 years …7 YEARS! That’s more than half their lives, yet I get reminded of my lack of belonging continuously throughout the year. Stepmom’s deal with this purposeful separation and take it personally, even if we don’t show it.  Mother’s Day is often the day that solidifies our dark […]

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Happy Mother’s Day to the Under-Defined Mother Figures Out There

I don’t have a word to use that articulates the kinship tie I share with my boyfriend’s daughter.  I’m simply “daddy’s girlfriend,” because at this point, only marriage can afford me a recognizable motherhood title like “stepmom.” But I am something to this child that reaches far beyond “daddy’s girlfriend.” I’m something under-defined, something society […]

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6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative for the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years he was extremely reluctant to set […]

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AN INTERVIEW: A Mom and Stepmom Discuss their Friendship

“We are the best of friends” Shelby Hilliard is mom to a daughter, and a stepmom to Latisa Valdez’s four children. Over the years, their relationship has blossomed into best friend status; however, they admit that it wasn’t always easy. Below, these moms discuss where it all began; what the stepmom/mom dynamic has been like […]