marriage


Time and the Stepfamily

I’ve always believed that, with the right attitude and perseverance, just about anything is possible! This is probably why I imagined that with two willing hearts and a can-do spirit that becoming a stepmom and blending families would be a relatively simple process. I liked my husband’s children, and they […]

Family Joining Puzzle Pieces

Couple Holding Hands

Finish Before You Begin Again

My area of expertise is working with couples in stepfamilies. Divorce rates are up to 70% the second time around and increase again for the third time. Those statistics are shocking, and for me heartbreaking because of the work I do. There are many more complicating factors in second marriages […]


Lessons Learned When I Embraced My Role as Second Wife

Coming into my role as a second wife to the love of my life was no easy feat. It’s as if everywhere I turned there was another reminder of his former life, of the woman he loved before me. It was inescapable, perpetual torture. I wanted to surprise his mom […]

Stepmom Thinking

Pensive Stepmom

The Accidental Stepmom

When I was a little girl, I daydreamed about what my life would be like as an adult. I imagined living somewhere interesting and in a large, beautiful home. I also imagined that I would have a house full of children, perhaps eight of them, and we would have a […]


The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]

Pensive Stepmom

Happy Couple Sitting on the Couch

10 Tips for Healthy Stepcoupling

Marriage is tough stuff. It takes intentional work to keep the fire that brought you together burning. There will be many times when the fires burn bright and strong and there will be many times when the embers are barely visible or felt. Re-marriage adds extra layers of complications and […]


The Stepmom Who Wanted to Leave…But Stayed

When I married my husband over 5 years ago, I anticipated a wonderful marriage full of love and devotion. What I didn’t expect was feeling like I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I left my perfectly happy single life and never anticipated the heaviness of this marriage. […]

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