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Parental Alienation: Our Grief Has a Name

They didn’t die, but there are days I think it might’ve been easier. At least we’d have closure, a definite ending, something.  Instead, we’re grieving children that made a million memories here in this home, under that tree in our front yard who now live down the street and have new […]

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What Two Ducks Taught Me About Motherhood

I never had my own children. They were my children.  The ones I laughed with and played with.  The ones I baked for and made new holiday traditions with. I was never going to birth my own children.  It was never going to be in the cards. So I made the most of it. […]


Grieving for My Parentally Alienated Husband

The phone rang. It was early in the morning on April 5th, 2004.  I was on Highway 1 headed to Watsonville to return shorts to Target before church.  I’d been working a hospital contract in Santa Cruz for several weeks.  I remember it like it was yesterday. Before I even answered the phone, […]

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Parental Alienation Concept

We Stopped Fighting Parental Alienation and Walked Away

Somewhere along the way, we made a conscious choice to preserve ourselves. To cut them loose. To let them go. For good. No more war. No more deceit. No more what ifs. Just gone. It was freeing. And painful. And soul wrenching. And there are days I can’t begin to […]


Parental Alienation Fallout

At the ripe age of 5-years-old, I announced to my mother that I would never birth my own children.  Fast forward thirty-nine years and turns out, I was right.  This year would have been my tenth year being the stepmother to Lyle, Mariam and Katherine.  Unfortunately, despite my husband and […]

Parental Alienation Concept

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Hey Stepmom! Stop Taking it Personally

In my role as a stepfamily coach and the administrator of several stepmom support groups, I made a recent and painful self-discovery. I am guilty of a serious stepmom advice sin: telling a stepmom: “ Don’t take it personally” and I’ve said it many times to many women over my stepmom coaching […]


An Interview with Paulina Lagudi, Director of “Mail Order Monster”

Paulina Lagudi has written, produced and directed her first feature film aimed at highlighting the challenging yet, positive aspects of stepfamily life. Starring Charisma Carpenter of “Angel” and “Buffy”, and “The Expendables” and Josh Hopkins of “Cougar Town”, “Quantico”, and “Bones”, “Mail Order Monster” is predominantly told from the perspective […]

Mail Order Monster