jealousy


Things I Wish My Stepchild’s Mom Knew: a Letter to BM

I am often discredited as a stepmom blogger because my relationship with K’s mom is so great. I take very little credit for our positive relationship; that was all Amanda, K’s biological mother (BM). She has chosen to invite me into her daughter’s life and treat me as an equal […]

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Why I Don’t Want My Daughter to Grow Up to Be a Stepmom

I love my family. My husband is thoughtful, helpful, and has the patience of a saint. My stepdaughter is full of joy, silly jokes, and cure-all hugs. My in-laws are kind, accepting, and understanding. But despite all of the love and happiness, there’s also a lot of darkness. Why I […]


A Stepmom’s Look Through the Lens of a Mother

Like many stepparents, my relationship with my spouse’s ex is not what I would call amicable. I wish it was, I really do. I would like to have the kind of situation where either of us might call the other to collaborate about the children’s needs in a friendly manner. […]

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Happy Stepcouple

Becoming a Successful Stepcouple

Lately, in the work I do outside of coaching stepmoms in a support group, I have seen many stepcouple relationships come to an end.  The statistics for second time marriages ending up in divorce tears at my heart – up to 70%. In her article “Lessons Learned from Stepfamilies” written […]


How Stepmoms Can Cope With ‘Biological Jealousy’

You’re not their “real” mom. As a stepmother, you know this. In fact, it’s painfully clear more often than not. No matter how many times you’ve made a pact with yourself to “let it go,” you keep coming back for more. You keep coming back because you made a commitment to this child or […]

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5 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Stepmom – Part 1

The decision to be part of someone’s life on a long-term basis is a monumental one. If the person you love has children, then making sure this decision is the right one for everyone involved is imperative. Here are 5 essential questions you need to ask yourself before jumping off […]