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Why Step-Moms Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships

One of the things I see step-moms struggle with over and over is feeling jealous and insecure when it comes to the ex. We know in our heads it doesn’t make sense. We know in our hearts our men love us. We know that our men chose us day after […]

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Things I Wish My Stepchild’s Mom Knew: a Letter to BM

I am often discredited as a stepmom blogger because my relationship with K’s mom is so great. I take very little credit for our positive relationship; that was all Amanda, K’s biological mother (BM). She has chosen to invite me into her daughter’s life and treat me as an equal […]


Why I Don’t Want My Daughter to Grow Up to Be a Stepmom

I love my family. My husband is thoughtful, helpful, and has the patience of a saint. My stepdaughter is full of joy, silly jokes, and cure-all hugs. My in-laws are kind, accepting, and understanding. But despite all of the love and happiness, there’s also a lot of darkness. Why I […]

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A Stepmom’s Look Through the Lens of a Mother

Like many stepparents, my relationship with my spouse’s ex is not what I would call amicable. I wish it was, I really do. I would like to have the kind of situation where either of us might call the other to collaborate about the children’s needs in a friendly manner. […]


Becoming a Successful Stepcouple

Lately, in the work I do outside of coaching stepmoms in a support group, I have seen many stepcouple relationships come to an end.  The statistics for second time marriages ending up in divorce tears at my heart – up to 70%. In her article “Lessons Learned from Stepfamilies” written […]

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How Stepmoms Can Cope With ‘Biological Jealousy’

You’re not their “real” mom. As a stepmother, you know this. In fact, it’s painfully clear more often than not. No matter how many times you’ve made a pact with yourself to “let it go,” you keep coming back for more. You keep coming back because you made a commitment to this child or […]


5 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Stepmom

The decision to be part of someone’s life on a long-term basis is a monumental one. If the person you love has children, then making sure this decision is the right one for everyone involved is imperative. Here are 5 essential questions you need to ask yourself before jumping off […]

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