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Dear Dads, Husbands and Partners

I understand you are not in an easy position. I understand that, if things were different, you would have hoped your first family, your biologic family, was intact and not broken. But sometimes we can not mend the wounds or close the distance and a restart is needed.  I’m here to tell […]

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Couple Holding Hands

Grieving for My Parentally Alienated Husband

The phone rang. It was early in the morning on April 5th, 2004.  I was on Highway 1 headed to Watsonville to return shorts to Target before church.  I’d been working a hospital contract in Santa Cruz for several weeks.  I remember it like it was yesterday. Before I even answered the phone, […]


Parental Alienation Fallout

At the ripe age of 5-years-old, I announced to my mother that I would never birth my own children.  Fast forward thirty-nine years and turns out, I was right.  This year would have been my tenth year being the stepmother to Lyle, Mariam and Katherine.  Unfortunately, despite my husband and […]

Parental Alienation Concept

Stepmom Thinking

Lessons Learned When I Embraced My Role as Second Wife

Coming into my role as a second wife to the love of my life was no easy feat. It’s as if everywhere I turned there was another reminder of his former life, of the woman he loved before me. It was inescapable, perpetual torture. I wanted to surprise his mom […]


15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling as a stepmom and needed […]

Couple Talking

Pensive Stepmom

Stepping Above the Drama of His Ex

Being a stepmom in a newly blended family has been the hardest task of my life. For me, the most challenging part has been learning how to deal with my husband’s ex and controlling my feelings towards her actions. But, before I get started, I don’t have a feel-good relationship […]


The Stepmom Who Wanted to Leave…But Stayed

When I married my husband over 5 years ago, I anticipated a wonderful marriage full of love and devotion. What I didn’t expect was feeling like I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I left my perfectly happy single life and never anticipated the heaviness of this marriage. […]

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