friendship


Stepmom Happiness Hacks

I am a true believer in being the boss of my own happiness.  I oversee how I feel and no one else can have that power over me. That said, I am also a Stepmom. There are a lot of obstacles and challenges to being the boss. External circumstances can be difficult to navigate. This blended family life tests […]

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Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]


Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that’s probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led […]

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7 Qualities That Will Transition You from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – Part 2

PART 2 4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a voluntary process to let go of negative feelings or bitterness. The key here is the word VOLUNTARY. It’s your choice to let go of offences against you and move on. This constitutes a change for you personally and change is something most people avoid […]


AN INTERVIEW: a Mom and Stepmom Discuss Their Friendship

“We are the best of friends” Shelby Hilliard is a mom to a daughter and a stepmom to Latisa Valdez’s four children. Over the years, their relationship has blossomed into best friend status; however, they admit that it wasn’t always easy. Below, these moms discuss where it all began; what […]

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How to Be a Good Role Model to Your Stepchildren

There are elements of parenting that stepparents can overlook, perhaps because they feel that they don’t apply to them, and one of these is being a role model. In fact, considering yourself as a role model can be very helpful in creating the right mindset for all sorts of issues […]


Disciplining Stepchildren: 5 Tips for Parents

Whenever I coach stepfamilies – either parents, their children or the family as a whole – there’s one issue that almost always crops up: discipline. How do stepparents avoid being seen as the nasty interloper with ridiculous new rules, and how do teenagers and kids cope with the changing boundaries […]

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