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Surviving the Court Process as the Second Wife

7 years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together.  10 months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married.  18 months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce decree with my husband’s ex-wife. When we started this process back in December 2015, we […]

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What Every Second Wife Needs to Hear

The most romantic statement Gabe ever made to me didn’t happen on our wedding day.  He didn’t declare it at the base of the Eiffel Tower, or pen it in a greeting card.  The sentence caught me by surprise as we were out to dinner on a rare weeknight alone. It was around […]


Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed with comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public.  I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me, and the list goes on.  This preoccupation has taken much of my time, happiness and […]

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Their Stepmum is More Exciting Than You and You Have to Accept That   Featured Today!

New family. It’s not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imagining how your life might be as a grown up. You don’t ever really want to end up sharing your own children’s weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact […]


6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative to the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years, he […]

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Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]