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How to Successfully Plan a Party with Your Husband’s Ex

This one is for my fellow stepmoms out there. Learning how to develop a working relationship with my stepdaughter’s mother is a huge part of my Sanity Plan. This is one aspect of my life that can get pretty strained in a hurry if I don’t steer it in a […]

Birthday Party

Pensive Stepmom

Why I Miss the Stepmom

If someone told me eight years ago that I would be missing my children’s stepmom I would have told them they are freaken crazy. No way in the world could I ever miss that lady. The struggles, arguments, and disagreements were enough to make anyone pull their hair out. Walking […]


Sharing the Love

With the birth of my little girl three months ago, I’ve reflected a lot on families and family dynamics; in between breastfeeding, changing diapers and reading “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?” of course. And I’ve come to realize something. Some of the biggest challenges of steplife boil […]

Parents and Children

Stepmom Thinking

Surviving the Court Process as the Second Wife

7 years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together.  10 months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married.  18 months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce decree with my husband’s ex-wife. When we started this process back in December 2015, we […]


What Every Second Wife Needs to Hear

The most romantic statement Gabe ever made to me didn’t happen on our wedding day.  He didn’t declare it at the base of the Eiffel Tower, or pen it in a greeting card.  The sentence caught me by surprise as we were out to dinner on a rare weeknight alone. It was around […]

Stepmom and Husband Hugging

Stepmom Thinking

Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed about comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public.  I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me, and the list goes on.  This preoccupation has taken much of my time, happiness and […]