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When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]

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Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]


Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]

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5 Things You Need to Know if You’re Dating a Man with Kids

As children, we often grow-up listening to fairy tales and promises of a happily-ever-after. However, with the high divorce rates these days, it may very well be that your prince charming turns out to be a divorced dad.   Getting into a relationship with a man who has kids means that […]


Time and the Stepfamily

I’ve always believed that, with the right attitude and perseverance, just about anything is possible! This is probably why I imagined that with two willing hearts and a can-do spirit that becoming a stepmom and blending families would be a relatively simple process. I liked my husband’s children, and they […]

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Finish Before You Begin Again

My area of expertise is working with couples in stepfamilies. Divorce rates are up to 70% the second time around and increase again for the third time. Those statistics are shocking, and for me heartbreaking because of the work I do. There are many more complicating factors in second marriages […]


The Accidental Stepmom

When I was a little girl, I daydreamed about what my life would be like as an adult. I imagined living somewhere interesting and in a large, beautiful home. I also imagined that I would have a house full of children, perhaps eight of them, and we would have a […]

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