couple care


What About Me? Step/mums and Family Holiday Traditions

It’s amping up to ‘that’ time of year. Holiday stress is a thing. It’s more often a thing for women. It’s often a very different kind of thing for step/mums. Traditionally women are the keepers of family traditions, the holiday planners, they are the ones to whom the responsibility for […]

Stressed Stepmum at Christmas

Beware The Expert – Finding Help That Fits

Stepparenting and becoming a happy step-family can be hard. We sometimes don’t even know what we don’t know! It’s human nature and common sense to reach out and try to find some help. Sometimes that help is sought from family and friends, and sometimes we decide it’s time to call […]


How I Coped With a High Conflict Beginning as a Stepmother

The Top Five Realisations which brought me a Happier Stepfamily Existence For many of us, becoming a stepmother is a crash course in learning to cope with high conflict and volatile situations. Such conflict often exists from the very beginning of our stepmothering journey (no rest for the wicked), and […]

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When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]


Why Your Intimate Relationship Is the Foundation for Your Stepfamily Success

Stepfamily success relies on the strength of the step-couple. According to Susan Wisdom, who wrote “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family”, the success of the stepcouple relies on how well the couple connects, communicates, co-parents in their own home. How well the couple clarifies how […]

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Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]


How Couples Can Work on Restoring Positive Emotional Feelings

I have a confession to make, writing these blogs have been good for me and subsequently my relationship with my husband.  This seriously helps me dig deeper in my own life, marriage and in how I show up and am with my husband. Also, what happens in our relationship becomes inspiration […]

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