couple care


Dear Dads, Husbands and Partners

I understand you are not in an easy position. I understand that, if things were different, you would have hoped your first family, your biologic family, was intact and not broken. But sometimes we can not mend the wounds or close the distance and a restart is needed.  I’m here to tell […]

Couple Embracing

Contending with Chaos to Create Christmas Peace

Now that the season of bright lights and big expectations is here, it is a good time to share a few ways to help you manage the stress and anxiety this time of year often brings for stepfamilies. There are so many competing priorities and responsibilities. We often find ourselves stretched with […]

Stepmom Achieving Peace at Christmas

Stepmom giving package to Stepson

Tips for Becoming a Full-Time Stepmom

I couldn’t have imagined that 3 years after marrying my husband who had 50/50 custody, we’d be moving 3000 miles away, gaining full physical custody of both boys (then 14 and 17), while mom stayed put. Nope, I did not see that one coming. The thing with stepfamily life is […]


What to Do When Your Marriage Is Not Number 1

One of the most painful and repeated stories I hear in my work with stepparents is that they often feel like they take a back seat to their stepkids. They feel like they are not the priority for their partner and that awareness creates a particularly acute and unique kind […]

Couple Supporting Each Other

Couple Holding Hands

Finish Before You Begin Again

My area of expertise is working with couples in stepfamilies. Divorce rates are up to 70% the second time around and increase again for the third time. Those statistics are shocking, and for me heartbreaking because of the work I do. There are many more complicating factors in second marriages […]


How I found Happiness as a Stepmom

You have found a new significant other and fell deeply in love! Isn’t it great?! What a wonderful feeling it is to be happy. I know that feeling – I fell in love eight years ago to my now husband and felt like a school girl in love with her […]

Happy Stepmom