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The 4 S’s – Personality Types in Step-Families

If our children are to approve of themselves, they must first see that we approve of ourselves.(Maya Angelou ‘Rainbow in the Cloud’ 2014) In my experience, one of the things that helps get me back on track when I am feeling I can do nothing ‘right’, is to remind myself […]


Mind, Body & Spirit

The Power of Three: Keeping it Together When You’re Feeling Torn Apart

Our entire life seemed to revolve around one thing – the mother of my stepsons. Now I have no kids of my own so when I entered this already made family of four I didn’t realize there would be five of us. Being a stepmom was all new territory for […]


The Stages of Stepfamily Development

A marriage that brings with it children from a previous marriage presents many challenges.  According to Dr. Patricia L. Papernow, these challenges go through a Seven Stage Model of Stepfamily Development.    My husband and I are eight years into our stepfamily, and I can honestly say that we have just […]

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Things I Wish My Stepchild’s Mom Knew: a Letter to BM

I am often discredited as a stepmom blogger because my relationship with K’s mom is so great. I take very little credit for our positive relationship; that was all Amanda, K’s biological mother (BM). She has chosen to invite me into her daughter’s life and treat me as an equal […]


Q&A with Jenna Korf on the High-Conflict Ex-Wife – Part 1

Corinne Foote, Founder and Editor of Stepparent Magazine chats to Jenna Korf of StepmomHelp.com about the high-conflict ex-wife. Questions asked included: What does high-conflict mean and what behaviour can we expect some someone considered to have high-conflict behaviours? Is it better for stepmums not to have communication with the ex-wife, […]

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Tell Me, Stepmom: Would You Rather Be Right or Happy?

So often I see stepmoms calling moms horrendous names, and I see equally horrifying things from moms about stepmoms or the children’s fathers. It makes my stomach churn. Not because they don’t deserve it. Not because they haven’t done those things that are causing you to call them heinous words […]


How to Live with People Who Hate You

I fell in love with and married a man who has six children. That’s right – his six plus my two make a family of ten, one loud dog and a few neglected fish. The kids range in age from nine to twenty-two. When we add in a few boyfriends, […]

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