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On Stepparent Struggles

You’re here, step’rent, so it’s safe to assume that you’re a proactive person. You seek out support and strategies. Presumably, you practice some of the suggested strategies. You set boundaries, you practice self-care, and you extend grace to yourself (as best you can). Yet, it’s also safe to assume that […]

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Stepmom Struggling

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When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]


How Couples Can Work on Restoring Positive Emotional Feelings

I have a confession to make, writing these blogs have been good for me and subsequently my relationship with my husband.  This seriously helps me dig deeper in my own life, marriage and in how I show up and am with my husband. Also, what happens in our relationship becomes inspiration […]

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From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]


Kids’ Rooms in the Step-Dynamic

One of the reasons I wanted to contribute a lifestyle section to Stepparent magazine was because there are so many nuances and subtleties to stepfamily life that aren’t covered by conventional lifestyle advice. One of these is kids’ rooms, especially kids who aren’t full time in your home. How do […]


The 4 S’s – Personality Types in Step-Families

If our children are to approve of themselves, they must first see that we approve of ourselves.(Maya Angelou ‘Rainbow in the Cloud’ 2014) In my experience, one of the things that helps get me back on track when I am feeling I can do nothing ‘right’, is to remind myself […]


Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]

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