communication


How to Successfully Plan a Party with Your Husband’s Ex

This one is for my fellow stepmoms out there. Learning how to develop a working relationship with my stepdaughter’s mother is a huge part of my Sanity Plan. This is one aspect of my life that can get pretty strained in a hurry if I don’t steer it in a […]

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Stepmom Thinking

10 Ideas to Help Prepare for Becoming a Stepparent

  Becoming a stepparent is one of the hardest things I have ever done. It was never in my plan. In fact, it was quite literally a check in a “no” column when it came to my dating preferences. I had been through hell and back with my own broken […]


Suggestions, Opinions and Control

Stepfamily life doesn’t feel natural. It’s a blending of individuals who wouldn’t be navigating family life together. It is undefined, yet we have biological roles to play. Some fall into the roles easier than others and some never do. For us stepmoms we try to find our way through this […]

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Stepmom Thinking

Surviving the Court Process as the Second Wife

7 years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together.  10 months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married.  18 months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce decree with my husband’s ex-wife. When we started this process back in December 2015, we […]


What Every Second Wife Needs to Hear

The most romantic statement Gabe ever made to me didn’t happen on our wedding day.  He didn’t declare it at the base of the Eiffel Tower, or pen it in a greeting card.  The sentence caught me by surprise as we were out to dinner on a rare weeknight alone. It was around […]

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Becoming a Successful Stepcouple

Lately, in the work I do outside of coaching stepmoms in a support group, I have seen many stepcouple relationships come to an end.  The statistics for second time marriages ending up in divorce tears at my heart – up to 70%. In her article “Lessons Learned from Stepfamilies” written […]