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6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative for the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years he was extremely reluctant to set […]

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Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean that there is a level […]

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Five Steps to Survive the Holidays and Save Your Sanity

I’ve fixed the holidays for you.  You’re welcome.  Read on.  Perhaps fixed is a touch overstating things, but the plan below will make you feel better – I promise. It involves half-assing and wine. Step One: Figure out the schedule early “What?” you say. “We have a schedule. It’s already defined in our agreement.” Of […]

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Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Exes and their Pattern of Dysfunction

When dealing with a High-Conflict Ex (HCE), it’s imperative to not get caught up in their constant complaining, negativity and attacks. From my experience, there is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern keeps my husband and I from getting sucked into the vortex of negativity. The pattern […]

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How to Communicate with Your Partner to Achieve Peace and Sustain your Sanity

Several stepmoms are having the exact same problem. We feel as though the ex-wife has a front row seat into our private lives and relationship. Sometimes I felt as though the ex-wife was a puppeteer pulling the strings in our lives and my husband wasn’t preventing this intrusion. I experienced feelings I’ve never felt and […]

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5 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Stepmom – Part 1

The decision to be part of someone’s life on a long-term basis is a monumental one. If the person you love has children, then making sure this decision is the right one for everyone involved is imperative. Here are 5 essential questions you need to ask yourself before jumping off into stepmother-hood: 1. Can I […]