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When “Step” Means Step Back

  I love to laugh. Laughing is my favorite. And I’ve been told on more than one occasion that my laugh is quite recognizable for its volume and intensity. So the day my husband said, “It’s good to hear that laugh again”, it hit me. Time to take stock. What […]

Stressed Stepmom

Pensive Stepmom

Why I Miss the Stepmom

If someone told me eight years ago that I would be missing my children’s stepmom I would have told them they are freaken crazy. No way in the world could I ever miss that lady. The struggles, arguments, and disagreements were enough to make anyone pull their hair out. Walking […]


Sharing the Love

With the birth of my little girl three months ago, I’ve reflected a lot on families and family dynamics; in between breastfeeding, changing diapers and reading “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?” of course. And I’ve come to realize something. Some of the biggest challenges of steplife boil […]

Parents and Children

Stepfamily Enjoying Outdoors

Making the Most out of Mother’s Day

Oooooh it’s that time of year again where many stepmoms are looking inward to figure out their place in the home. For some, this day can be a day where they are pampered with gifts and with love.  While other stepmoms feel rejected and doubt themselves in their role in […]


Saying Goodbye: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Years ago, when we first began sharing custody, I dreaded the time my children were with their father. I missed them terribly, and transitions triggered all my grief and guilt about our divorce. I felt like a part-time parent and the days were excruciatingly long. As the time came for […]

Father and Daughter Hugging

Teenagers Packing

Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day […]