Teenagers Packing Read more

Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day has not. Transition day is […]

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Five Steps to Survive the Holidays and Save Your Sanity

I’ve fixed the holidays for you.  You’re welcome.  Read on.  Perhaps fixed is a touch overstating things, but the plan below will make you feel better – I promise. It involves half-assing and wine. Step One: Figure out the schedule early “What?” you say. “We have a schedule. It’s already defined in our agreement.” Of […]

Shelby & Latisa Read more

AN INTERVIEW: A Mom and Stepmom Discuss their Friendship

“We are the best of friends” Shelby Hilliard is mom to a daughter, and a stepmom to Latisa Valdez’s four children. Over the years, their relationship has blossomed into best friend status; however, they admit that it wasn’t always easy. Below, these moms discuss where it all began; what the stepmom/mom dynamic has been like […]

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Financial Equality: Is Fairness Necessary When it Comes to the Children?

There is one aspect of stepfamily life that can generate a lot of heat: money.  Everyone knows that finances are a common stressor among stepfamilies.  Many fathers have children with previous partners and must pay child support or alimony. Contrary, some remarried mothers receive child support from their ex-partners.  One thing is for certain; each […]