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Hey Stepmom! Stop Taking it Personally

In my role as a stepfamily coach and the administrator of several stepmom support groups, I made a recent and painful self-discovery. I am guilty of a serious stepmom advice sin: telling a stepmom: “ Don’t take it personally” and I’ve said it many times to many women over my stepmom coaching […]

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The Stages of Stepfamily Development

A marriage that brings with it children from a previous marriage presents many challenges.  According to Dr. Patricia L. Papernow, these challenges go through a Seven Stage Model of Stepfamily Development.    My husband and I are eight years into our stepfamily, and I can honestly say that we have just […]


What to Do When Your Marriage Is Not Number 1

One of the most painful and repeated stories I hear in my work with stepparents is that they often feel like they take a back seat to their stepkids. They feel like they are not the priority for their partner and that awareness creates a particularly acute and unique kind […]

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Q&A with Jenna Korf on the High-Conflict Ex-Wife – Part 1

Corinne Foote, Founder and Editor of Stepparent Magazine chats to Jenna Korf of StepmomHelp.com about the high-conflict ex-wife. Questions asked included: What does high-conflict mean and what behaviour can we expect some someone considered to have high-conflict behaviours? Is it better for stepmums not to have communication with the ex-wife, […]


Why Stepmoms Need a Kid-Free Zone in Their Home

Let’s face it, even in the best of circumstances, kids are not easy to be around 100 percent of the time. Even biological parents need a break from their children once in a while, so it’s normal (although not quite acceptable by society) for stepmoms to need a break from kids […]

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How I found Happiness as a Stepmom

You have found a new significant other and fell deeply in love! Isn’t it great?! What a wonderful feeling it is to be happy. I know that feeling – I fell in love eight years ago to my now husband and felt like a school girl in love with her […]


15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling as a stepmom and needed […]

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