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6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative for the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years he was extremely reluctant to set […]

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The Importance of Structure and Consistency in the Lives of Children

Through my own experience with my stepdaughters, and with many years in the education system, I have learned the value of structure and consistency for children. Learnersdictionary.com defines structure as, “the quality of something that is carefully planned, organized, and controlled.” Structure allows children to feel safe. According to Aha Parenting, “Structure and routines teach kids how […]

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Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Exes and their Pattern of Dysfunction

When dealing with a High-Conflict Ex (HCE), it’s imperative to not get caught up in their constant complaining, negativity and attacks. From my experience, there is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern keeps my husband and I from getting sucked into the vortex of negativity. The pattern […]

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How to Communicate with Your Partner to Achieve Peace and Sustain your Sanity

Several stepmoms are having the exact same problem. We feel as though the ex-wife has a front row seat into our private lives and relationship. Sometimes I felt as though the ex-wife was a puppeteer pulling the strings in our lives and my husband wasn’t preventing this intrusion. I experienced feelings I’ve never felt and […]

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7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – PART 2

PART 2 4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a voluntary process to let go of negative feelings or bitterness.  The key here is the word VOLUNTARY. It’s your choice and chore to let go of offenses against you and move on.  This constitutes change in you personally and change is something most people avoid as it makes […]

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7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – Part 1

When I divorced from my ex over eight years ago I knew I wanted to remarry.  I desired companionship and closeness with another individual.  But, I had certain “qualifications” that I was looking for in a new partner.  One “qualification” was that he would have children.  A man with children of his own would understand […]