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Happy Mother’s Day to the Under-Defined Mother Figures Out There

I don’t have a word to use that articulates the kinship tie I share with my boyfriend’s daughter.  I’m simply “daddy’s girlfriend,” because at this point, only marriage can afford me a recognizable motherhood title like “stepmom.” But I am something to this child that reaches far beyond “daddy’s girlfriend.” I’m something under-defined, something society […]

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Increasing Your Chances of Stepfamily Success: What You Should Know

If you’re reading this, you’ve probably figured out that building a blended family is a very complicated process. One critical point that we often overlook is that most families already have an existing story that defines their values, traditions, dreams, and goals, many of which are carried on from previous generations. These stories are important […]

Teenagers Packing Read more

Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day has not. Transition day is […]

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Five Steps to Survive the Holidays and Save Your Sanity

I’ve fixed the holidays for you.  You’re welcome.  Read on.  Perhaps fixed is a touch overstating things, but the plan below will make you feel better – I promise. It involves half-assing and wine. Step One: Figure out the schedule early “What?” you say. “We have a schedule. It’s already defined in our agreement.” Of […]