appreciation


The 4 S’s – Personality Types in Step-Families

If our children are to approve of themselves, they must first see that we approve of ourselves.(Maya Angelou ‘Rainbow in the Cloud’ 2014) In my experience, one of the things that helps get me back on track when I am feeling I can do nothing ‘right’, is to remind myself […]


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Are You a Relationship Score Keeper?

“Generosity is something freely given as a gift, with nothing expected in return. When a relationship feels secure, it is easy to want to offer more than your fair share of tasks or thoughtful gestures to show your love for your partner. Whether moving their clothes to the dryer for […]


7 Ways to Survive Mother’s Day as a Stepmom

Is this what Mother’s Day has looked like for you? Facebook and Instagram have blown up with sappy love messages wishing everyone a Happy Mother’s Day or ‘I’m so grateful for…’ posts. In the same breath, you’re celebrating your own mother and mother-in-law while also avoiding this day yourself because […]

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15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling as a stepmom and needed […]


The Accidental Stepmom

When I was a little girl, I daydreamed about what my life would be like as an adult. I imagined living somewhere interesting and in a large, beautiful home. I also imagined that I would have a house full of children, perhaps eight of them, and we would have a […]

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A Message for Partners on Mother’s Day: What Stepmoms Want You to Know

I’ve known my stepchildren for over 7 years …7 YEARS! That’s more than half their lives, yet I get reminded of my lack of belonging continuously throughout the year. Stepmom’s deal with this purposeful separation and take it personally, even if we don’t show it.  Mother’s Day is often the […]


What It Means To Be A Stepmom on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is upon us. That Sunday in May where a lot of us will be planning something special for the mothers in our lives. For the most part, we will try to give thanks to mothers for their love, encouragement, blood, sweat, and tears spent raising us in this […]

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