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Shifting Your Perspective on Your Stepkids’ Bad Attitude

Being a parent is hard. Personally, it’s one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had. But I think being a stepparent is even harder. Research shows that relationship challenges with the stepchildren is one of the top two challenges for stepmoms. The dynamics of relationships with our stepkids (skids) is so complex and multifaceted. There […]

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Why Valentine’s Should be for our Men too

February is the month of love. For many women, it’s a time for our partners to shower us with gifts. And it’s a time for us to show our partners how much we love them.  However, the perception out there is that Valentine’s Day is more for the women.  It’s all about the romance.  We […]

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The Ugly Truth about Blended Families

Last night, as we settled into bed with a glass of wine, Gabe shared that Caden had recently hurt his feelings.  He’d planned an outing he thought Caden would like, and Caden’s response hadn’t met his expectations.  It was one of a long list of disappointments my sweet husband had suffered this week. “It feels like nobody […]

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Grieving Twice

It has been a long time since I wrote openly about my step-parenting role. You see, I am challenged by my role now; and I am not sure if I am still a “stepmom”. The worst experience that could happen to families did occur, and my husband was killed in a motorcycle accident last May. […]

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Dealing with Emotionally Abusive People

In the stepmom role, I’ve encountered a significant increase in dealing with emotionally abusive people. Researching these types of people has helped me to step back and see these people for who they truly are, without getting emotionally sucked into their hell. I am able to see their cycle of abuse and therefore keep a […]

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Surviving the Stepdaughter War

My stepdaughter Amy is eleven, and has a war raging within her.  It surfaced this weekend. “That’s not how mom makes potatoes,” she told me as I slid the roasting pan into the oven before dinner. After her shower, she came downstairs, long hair dripping down her back. She held up the Wet/Dry hairbrush she’d begged for […]

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Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that’s probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led me to put another mark in […]

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The Importance of Structure and Consistency in the Lives of Children

Through my own experience with my stepdaughters, and with many years in the education system, I have learned the value of structure and consistency for children. Learnersdictionary.com defines structure as, “the quality of something that is carefully planned, organized, and controlled.” Structure allows children to feel safe. According to Aha Parenting, “Structure and routines teach kids how […]

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Recapturing Christmas Magic

This is the time of year with plenty of gatherings for friends and family that create opportunities for fun and frivolity. A time to celebrate, share, give and receive. It’s joyous and magical. But for some, it shines a spot light on everything wrong and on those things missing. It can be incredibly overwhelming. The […]