5 Stepmom Truths for His High Conflict Ex

When it came the time to meet his ex I suspect we were all a bit apprehensive. She was the one before us and at one time your partner loved this woman. They will forever be a part of each other’s lives as they share children, future grandchildren, and history. […]

Stepmom Thinking

Stepmother and Stepdaughter Reading Together

The Harsh Realities of Stepparenting

My mother-in-law is a wonderful, caring, nurturing woman. She would give you the shirt off her back in a heartbeat. To boot, she’s never met a stranger – can you imagine what kind of love that means for those of us in her family? Indescribable. But one day she said something so offensive […]


Stepparenting: An Exercise in Taking What We Can Get When We Can Get It

  My stepdaughter, a freshman in high school, began taking some first steps into the realm of young adulthood and special occasions by recently attending her homecoming dance at school. It seems like a lifetime ago since I attended my own school formals; but, I can still recall the excitement […]

Stepmom and Stepdaughter Smiling

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10 Ways Our Family is More “Broken” Than “Blended”

Our society is so politically correct these days. But what if our insistence on using “positive” words actually detracts from the truth? What are we covering when we insist that our families are blended, instead of broken? For me, I’d much rather err on the side of reality, even if that means […]


A Stepmom’s Look Through the Lens of a Mother

Like many stepparents, my relationship with my spouse’s ex is not what I would call amicable. I wish it was, I really do. I would like to have the kind of situation where either of us might call the other to collaborate about the children’s needs in a friendly manner. […]

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Stepmom looking out of a window

Stepmom in the Middle

If you have a stepchild or stepchildren who shuttle between mom and dad’s house on a regular basis, then you’re probably all too familiar with the complicated issues that can arise during these transitions. Just because there’s an organized visitation schedule doesn’t mean all the people involved are consistently happy […]