Celebrations


What It Means To Be A Stepmom on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is upon us. That Sunday in May where a lot of us will be planning something special for the mothers in our lives. For the most part, we will try to give thanks to mothers for their love, encouragement, blood, sweat, and tears spent raising us in this […]

Stepmom smelling flowers

Child giving flowers to stepmom

Mothering Day

Mother’s Day is coming up and I have lovely memories of celebrating my grandmother and mother on this special day. These women graciously and selflessly mothered me in many ways and they deserved to be recognized, at least, on this one day carved out for them. I would put on […]


Fitting in as a Stepmom on Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day approaches I have been reflecting on motherhood. As it tends to do, it has also shone a light on step-motherhood. I am a stepmom of 3 adult stepchildren and the biological mother of 2 girls. We are clear about what moms SHOULD be. The ideal? Mothers are […]

Parents reading to children

Stepmom and Stepdaughter

Happy Mother’s Day to the Under-Defined Mother Figures Out There

I don’t have a word to use that articulates the kinship tie I share with my boyfriend’s daughter.  I’m simply “daddy’s girlfriend,” because, at this point, only marriage can afford me a recognizable motherhood title like “stepmom.” But I am something to this child that reaches far beyond “daddy’s girlfriend.” […]


Making the Most out of Mother’s Day

Oooooh it’s that time of year again where many stepmoms are looking inward to figure out their place in the home. For some, this day can be a day where they are pampered with gifts and with love.  While other stepmoms feel rejected and doubt themselves in their role in […]

Stepfamily Enjoying Outdoors

Couple drinking in front of the fire

Recapturing Christmas Magic

This is the time of year with plenty of gatherings for friends and family that create opportunities for fun and frivolity. A time to celebrate, share, give and receive. It’s joyous and magical. But for some, it shines a spotlight on everything wrong and on those things missing. It can […]


The Steplife 12 Days of Christmas Tips for Holiday Peace!

Tip 1: Plan in Advance It is often the ‘unknown’ that causes stress, so sit down with your partner and make a plan – be sure to coordinate with the biological mom. Tip 2: Loosen Schedules (a little bit) We can get very ‘schedule focused’, especially when we see kids […]

Stepmom relaxing at Christmas