Stepmums


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

Stepmom with fingers in her ears

Woman Writing in her Journal

Journal Out the Stepmom Stressors

Eight Reasons Why Journaling Is Good For You Journaling is good for you, and your relationships. Unlike your partner and your friends, the pages in your journal will never grow weary of listening to you lament about stepparenting. Or anything else for that matter. The next time you find yourself […]


How to Prevent Stepmom Burnout

The only BURNOUT you have time for is the wheels of the car on the pavement as you speed off to your dreams, stepmom! Okay, we should address the all too common, but avoidable problem of stepmom burnout. Sound familiar? One of the best ways to avoid stepmom burnout is […]

Stepmom Burnout

Family Vacation

From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]


Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]

Stepmom in Thought

Pensive Woman Standing And Thinking

The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]


Why Step-Moms Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships

One of the things I see step-moms struggle with over and over is feeling jealous and insecure when it comes to the ex. We know in our heads it doesn’t make sense. We know in our hearts our men love us. We know that our men chose us day after […]

Stepmom Feeling Insecure