Stepmums


To All The Stepmoms in The Trenches

For the determined stepmom who is in the trenches, I feel you. For the new stepmom who cried this morning, I’ve been there. For the seasoned stepmom who still battles resentment, I’m with you. This road can feel long. It can be treacherous, and it can be confusing. Knowing which path to take at […]

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Why My Stepmomming is Different to My Momming

Someone said to me a few months ago; ‘I catch glimpses of myself, which is nice’ as we discussed family life and how it’s possible to be so absorbed in it you can fade away, almost entirely. The sentiment of this rang true and I felt uneasy having settled for […]


Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


Stepmother

Madrastra – The Evil Stepmother in Latino Culture

At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he told me not to use the word ‘madrastra’ (stepmother, in Spanish) because it sounded ‘really bad’. Never did I think to look it up in a dictionary until now, 7 years later. What I found shocked me so much that […]


“I Didn’t Sign Up for This!” Six Tips for Step-Parenting During a Pandemic

I’m writing this from the corner of my closet, wedged between shoes and a stack of purses, trying to keep the laptop from sliding off my knees as I reposition the suitcase currently digging into my back. I’m sitting in this unusual location because I’ve discovered it’s the only place […]

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How Becoming A Stepmom Made Me Love Myself More

When I first came on the scene in the beginning stages of dating my now-husband, I had very little concept as to how dating a single father and becoming a stepmom would ultimately change my life. The biological mother of my now-stepson didn’t even acknowledge my presence the first time […]


Step-Families in a Pandemic – Coping with Covid-19

Covid-19, or the Corona virus, is big news around the world. Schools are closing, borders are closing, toilet paper stocks are at all time lows. This is the perfect storm for step-family conflict. The support groups I am part of our blowing up with stories of parents wanting trips cancelled […]