Stepdads


Changing The Narrative: No More ‘Evil Stepparents’

What does it mean to ‘Change the Narrative’? One definition I’ve read says, “Changing the narrative is synonymous with changing the story. This means either something has happened that changes things or you are making something happen that changes things. Or, you are choosing to focus on something else that happened which […]

Frank Savala

Parental Alienation Christmas Concept

Parental Alienation and the Gift of Time

Ten years ago this Christmas, Jack and I gave my three stepchildren the ultimate gift – a new home.  Just months before, we’d secretly bought a two-story house nestled on a huge lot with a creek running on the back side.  We spent weeks renovating and decorating it down to the very […]


Christmas Expectations: How to Manage the Stress and Set Yourself up for Success

Christmas is not always the most wonderful time of the year. Often we are dealing with extra stress, spending more money, more pressure, and less sleep. That doesn’t even include the step-family layers of competition between houses, missing kids because of custody disputes and threats, last minute schedule changes, and […]

Woman Meditating at Christmas

Stepmom Struggling

On Stepparent Struggles

You’re here, step’rent, so it’s safe to assume that you’re a proactive person. You seek out support and strategies. Presumably, you practice some of the suggested strategies. You set boundaries, you practice self-care, and you extend grace to yourself (as best you can). Yet, it’s also safe to assume that […]


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

Stepmom with fingers in her ears

Woman Writing in her Journal

Journal Out the Stepmom Stressors

Eight Reasons Why Journaling Is Good For You Journaling is good for you, and your relationships. Unlike your partner and your friends, the pages in your journal will never grow weary of listening to you lament about stepparenting. Or anything else for that matter. The next time you find yourself […]


From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]

Family Vacation