Stepdads


From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]

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Stepmom Relaxing

The Restorative Power of “Me Time”

This past Sunday afternoon, we hosted a little gathering of friends and their kids to celebrate my daughter’s second birthday. That morning, the five of us were in the house (me, hubs, our little one, and my stepkids) and everyone was under my feet. Well, that’s what it felt like. […]


Blended with Baby

If you’re reading this you are not the first family. You are likely the second family, the blended family. You may have found your way into the family unit in the same way I did; single with no children of my own. Or perhaps you brought your own children from […]

Family with Newborn Baby

Woman Contemplating

Hey Stepmom! Stop Taking it Personally

In my role as a stepfamily coach and the administrator of several stepmom support groups, I made a recent and painful self-discovery. I am guilty of a serious stepmom advice sin: telling a stepmom: “ Don’t take it personally” and I’ve said it many times to many women over my stepmom coaching […]


The Stages of Stepfamily Development

A marriage that brings with it children from a previous marriage presents many challenges.  According to Dr. Patricia L. Papernow, these challenges go through a Seven Stage Model of Stepfamily Development.    My husband and I are eight years into our stepfamily, and I can honestly say that we have just […]

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Stepmom talking to stepson

Stepparenting: The Ultimate Part-Time Job

When I take something on, I’m all in. It took me the first third of my life to figure out what I’m not good at (basketball, math, volleyball, science, any sport involving a ball, anything involving numbers), and I’ve spent the remainder avoiding such tasks and activities. Instead, I dive […]


How to Create Harmony Between Your Child’s Two Houses

How does your stepdaughter deal with switching back and forth between houses during the week? I get asked this question so often when chatting with others about my family’s blended dynamic. Although the ideal custodial arrangement between two separate parents is always 50/50, more often than not it doesn’t happen. […]

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