Dealing with the other house


Why kids should not be in charge of the visitation schedule

Permissive parenting is something  I see a lot in the step-family dynamic. It’s custodial parents who think children should get to dictate to schedule, it’s non-custodial parents who are too scared to set boundaries. It’s when kids are put in the driving seat of the decision making in the family […]

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Family Vacation

From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]


5 Way to Support Someone Experiencing Parental Alienation

Chances are, right now you know someone experiencing parental alienation and don’t know it.  If you’ve never heard of it, consider yourself lucky.  Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse that tears away at the very core of the relationship between parent and child.  Those going through it feel out of control, […]

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Stepmom in Thought

Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]


The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]

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What Two Ducks Taught Me About Motherhood

I never had my own children. They were my children.  The ones I laughed with and played with.  The ones I baked for and made new holiday traditions with. I was never going to birth my own children.  It was never going to be in the cards. So I made the most of it. […]


Why Step-Moms Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships

One of the things I see step-moms struggle with over and over is feeling jealous and insecure when it comes to the ex. We know in our heads it doesn’t make sense. We know in our hearts our men love us. We know that our men chose us day after […]

Stepmom Feeling Insecure