High Conflict Exes


Surviving the Court Process as the Second Wife

Seven years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together. Ten months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married. Eighteen months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce decree with my husband’s ex-wife. When we started this process back in December 2015, we […]

Stepmom Thinking

Stepmum and ex shaking hands

Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]


Dealing with Emotionally Abusive People

In the stepmom role, I’ve encountered a significant increase in dealing with emotionally abusive people. Researching these types of people has helped me to step back and see these people for who they truly are, without getting emotionally sucked into their hell. I am able to see their cycle of […]

Stepmom Hiding Her Face

Stepmom putting hand out

Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Exes and their Pattern of Dysfunction

When dealing with a High-Conflict Ex (HCE), it’s imperative to not get caught up in their constant complaining, negativity and attacks. From my experience, there is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern keeps my husband and I from getting sucked into the […]


The High Conflict Ex-Wife

I talk a lot about dealing with difficult ex-wives, mainly because that’s often the #1 complaint of my clients and well, no one else is really addressing the issue. So, what exactly do I mean by difficult? This is what I mean: They only have one story; a story where they’re […]

Keeping out conflict

Narcissistic stepchild

Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps – when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist: Nature or Nurture? A large proportion of my coaching career has been spent studying narcissistic […]


Expect the Unexpected: Learning How to Deal with a High Conflict Ex-Wife

The day Joanna met her husband’s ex-wife she had just baked cookies and was sending the kids home with a huge bag of home-baked goodness. His ex-wife walked in the house to pick up the kids, and as she was leaving dropped the bag of cookies on the floor, stepped […]

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