Dealing with the other house


Parental Alienation and the Gift of Time

Ten years ago this Christmas, Jack and I gave my three stepchildren the ultimate gift – a new home.  Just months before, we’d secretly bought a two-story house nestled on a huge lot with a creek running on the back side.  We spent weeks renovating and decorating it down to the very […]

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Parental Alienation Christmas Concept

Woman Meditating at Christmas

Christmas Expectations: How to Manage the Stress and Set Yourself up for Success

Christmas is not always the most wonderful time of the year. Often we are dealing with extra stress, spending more money, more pressure, and less sleep. That doesn’t even include the step-family layers of competition between houses, missing kids because of custody disputes and threats, last minute schedule changes, and […]


On Stepparent Struggles

You’re here, step’rent, so it’s safe to assume that you’re a proactive person. You seek out support and strategies. Presumably, you practice some of the suggested strategies. You set boundaries, you practice self-care, and you extend grace to yourself (as best you can). Yet, it’s also safe to assume that […]

Stepmom Struggling

Pensive Stepmom

All the Guts, None of the Glory

  The story of my life. Put the work in and watch my stepchildren’s biological mother take credit in any way she can. Being a stepparent requires you to fill a large role quietly. I stubbornly fought the idea because I wanted to get credit for all the work required […]


When the “Old Life With the Ex” Comes Up

In blended family life, there are a lot of people who bring up the old times. I mean, everybody does it. YOU DO IT! Your partner, the stepkid(s), extended family, friends, the ex, and even strangers. Oh yes! Strangers get in on this too.   Several years into our relationship, […]

Stepmom with fingers in her ears

Woman Writing in her Journal

Journal Out the Stepmom Stressors

Eight Reasons Why Journaling Is Good For You Journaling is good for you, and your relationships. Unlike your partner and your friends, the pages in your journal will never grow weary of listening to you lament about stepparenting. Or anything else for that matter. The next time you find yourself […]


Parental Alienation: Our Grief Has a Name

They didn’t die, but there are days I think it might’ve been easier. At least we’d have closure, a definite ending, something.  Instead, we’re grieving children that made a million memories here in this home, under that tree in our front yard who now live down the street and have new […]

Grieving Couple