Dealing with the other house


Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]

Stepmom in Thought

Pensive Woman Standing And Thinking

The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]


What Two Ducks Taught Me About Motherhood

I never had my own children. They were my children.  The ones I laughed with and played with.  The ones I baked for and made new holiday traditions with. I was never going to birth my own children.  It was never going to be in the cards. So I made the most of it. […]


Stepmom Feeling Insecure

Why Step-Moms Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships

One of the things I see step-moms struggle with over and over is feeling jealous and insecure when it comes to the ex. We know in our heads it doesn’t make sense. We know in our hearts our men love us. We know that our men chose us day after […]


But First…Me: The Importance of Self-Care

Moms wear many hats. It doesn’t matter if you’re a mom, stepmom, single mom, adoptive mom, foster mom; maybe you’ve found yourself joined together in matrimony to a rather large man-child also referred to as a husband, (love you dear) or all of the above. If you’re a mom in […]

Woman Relaxing Reading a Book

Parental Alienation Court Hearing

How Well-Meaning Community Professionals Assist in Parental Alienation

Recently, I was reminded of why I hate talking about parental alienation. A 30–minute session with the benefits rep at work left me feeling victimized and helpless all over again. Questions that ensued from such a simple interaction like –Did you call the police? or Why didn’t you call DFS?– left me feeling deflated and left her convinced that I’m not only crazy but also most likely a child […]


I’m Not A Perfect Stepmom

No stepmom likes to think of herself as bitter, angry, or resentful. No stepmom likes the idea of other people seeing her in that light either. A lot of people have referred to me as, “the best stepmom in the world,” or, “the perfect stepmom.” Maybe I am all of […]

Stepmom Inner Strength Concept