Dealing with the other house


A Letter to the Grieving Stepmom

How to let go of the life you thought you would live and embrace the one you are living Dear Grieving Stepmom, As a little girl, you dreamt of finding the person of your dreams, getting married, buying a house, and starting a family. You dreamt of life in a […]

Pensive Stepmum

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How I Coped With a High Conflict Beginning as a Stepmother

The Top Five Realisations which brought me a Happier Stepfamily Existence For many of us, becoming a stepmother is a crash course in learning to cope with high conflict and volatile situations. Such conflict often exists from the very beginning of our stepmothering journey (no rest for the wicked), and […]


Tips for a Smoother Stepmum Pregnancy Experience

Helping First Time Mums Who Were Actually Stepmums First! Parenting is full of changes. Step-parenting is full of challenges.   And becoming a mum is full of challenges regardless of age or stage.   No matter how prepared you think you are for motherhood having been a stepmum, there are challenges and issues that you cannot even begin […]


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Changing The Narrative: No More ‘Evil Stepparents’

What does it mean to ‘Change the Narrative’? One definition I’ve read says, “Changing the narrative is synonymous with changing the story. This means either something has happened that changes things or you are making something happen that changes things. Or, you are choosing to focus on something else that happened which […]


To All The Stepmoms in The Trenches

For the determined stepmom who is in the trenches, I feel you. For the new stepmom who cried this morning, I’ve been there. For the seasoned stepmom who still battles resentment, I’m with you. This road can feel long. It can be treacherous, and it can be confusing. Knowing which path to take at […]


Why My Stepmomming is Different to My Momming

Someone said to me a few months ago; ‘I catch glimpses of myself, which is nice’ as we discussed family life and how it’s possible to be so absorbed in it you can fade away, almost entirely. The sentiment of this rang true and I felt uneasy having settled for […]


Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]