Dealing with the other house


How to Prevent Stepmom Burnout

The only BURNOUT you have time for is the wheels of the car on the pavement as you speed off to your dreams, stepmom! Okay, we should address the all too common, but avoidable problem of stepmom burnout. Sound familiar? One of the best ways to avoid stepmom burnout is […]

Stepmom Burnout

What Is (And Isn’t) Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS is one of the most incorrectly used terms in the step-family world. It’s a word that can often send court appointed officials running for the hills, or rolling their eyes so far back in the heads their eyes get whiplash. Why is this term so […]


Why kids should not be in charge of the visitation schedule

Permissive parenting is something  I see a lot in the step-family dynamic. It’s custodial parents who think children should get to dictate to schedule, it’s non-custodial parents who are too scared to set boundaries. It’s when kids are put in the driving seat of the decision making in the family […]


Family Vacation

From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]


5 Way to Support Someone Experiencing Parental Alienation

Chances are, right now you know someone experiencing parental alienation and don’t know it.  If you’ve never heard of it, consider yourself lucky.  Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse that tears away at the very core of the relationship between parent and child.  Those going through it feel out of control, […]

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Stepmom in Thought

Visualize Your Future Self

As stepmoms, it can be easy for us to get embroiled in what is currently happening in our stepfamily, whether it is a custody battle or disciplinary issues with our stepchildren. We forget to think about what we want for the future. The custody battle will end, and your stepchildren will […]


The Thing About the Other Mom: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

If I could go back and chat with 22-year-old me, I would have a list of advice for myself that circled the globe. Twice. Wouldn’t we all? I know this is not something we get to do, but let’s just pretend for a second that I could.  Twelve years ago […]

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