Your Journey, Your Story


Happy Mother’s Day to the Under-Defined Mother Figures Out There

I don’t have a word to use that articulates the kinship tie I share with my boyfriend’s daughter.  I’m simply “daddy’s girlfriend,” because at this point, only marriage can afford me a recognizable motherhood title like “stepmom.” But I am something to this child that reaches far beyond “daddy’s girlfriend.” […]

Stepmom and Stepdaughter

Stepmom Thinking

Surviving the Court Process as the Second Wife

7 years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together.  10 months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married.  18 months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce decree with my husband’s ex-wife. When we started this process back in December 2015, we […]


Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed about comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public.  I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me, and the list goes on.  This preoccupation has taken much of my time, happiness and […]

Stepmom Thinking

Father and Daughter Hugging

Saying Goodbye: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Years ago, when we first began sharing custody, I dreaded the time my children were with their father. I missed them terribly, and transitions triggered all my grief and guilt about our divorce. I felt like a part-time parent and the days were excruciatingly long. As the time came for […]


Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day […]

Teenagers Packing

Stepmum thinking positive

Positive Thoughts, Positive Actions, Positive Results

Do you ever have times in your life where you just feel like everything is going wrong, like you’re on an insane roller coaster that keeps your world upside down? Lately I have been feeling that way, and let me tell you…I need to get off this ride! From stressing […]