Stepmum/Mum


Their Stepmum is More Exciting Than You and You Have to Accept That

New family. It’s not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imagining how your life might be as a grown up. You don’t ever really want to end up sharing your own children’s weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact […]

Stepmum chasing Stepson

Shutting ex out

6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative to the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years, he […]


Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]

Stepmum and ex shaking hands

Stepmom putting hand out

Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Exes and their Pattern of Dysfunction

When dealing with a High-Conflict Ex (HCE), it’s imperative to not get caught up in their constant complaining, negativity and attacks. From my experience, there is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern keeps my husband and I from getting sucked into the […]


AN INTERVIEW: a Mom and Stepmom Discuss Their Friendship

“We are the best of friends” Shelby Hilliard is a mom to a daughter and a stepmom to Latisa Valdez’s four children. Over the years, their relationship has blossomed into best friend status; however, they admit that it wasn’t always easy. Below, these moms discuss where it all began; what […]

Shelby & Latisa

Storm ahead high-conflict

Expect the Unexpected: Learning How to Deal with a High Conflict Ex-Wife

The day Joanna met her husband’s ex-wife she had just baked cookies and was sending the kids home with a huge bag of home-baked goodness. His ex-wife walked in the house to pick up the kids, and as she was leaving dropped the bag of cookies on the floor, stepped […]