Stepmum/Mum


How to Communicate with Bio Mom: Crafting Your Stepmom Philosophy

My best friend is my stepdaughter’s mom. Yep, you read that right. What’s the question that follows that confession every single time? “How in the world did you get to that point?!” My biggest recommendation for helping other stepmoms replicate our relationship is to develop a strong sense of self […]

Stepmom Writing

Stepmom Thinking

5 Stepmom Truths for His High Conflict Ex

When it came the time to meet his ex I suspect we were all a bit apprehensive. She was the one before us and at one time your partner loved this woman. They will forever be a part of each other’s lives as they share children, future grandchildren, and history. […]


A Stepmom’s Look Through the Lens of a Mother

Like many stepparents, my relationship with my spouse’s ex is not what I would call amicable. I wish it was, I really do. I would like to have the kind of situation where either of us might call the other to collaborate about the children’s needs in a friendly manner. […]

Stepmom looking through a lense

Birthday Party

How to Successfully Plan a Party with Your Husband’s Ex

This one is for my fellow stepmoms out there. Learning how to develop a working relationship with my stepdaughter’s mother is a huge part of my Sanity Plan. This is one aspect of my life that can get pretty strained in a hurry if I don’t steer it in a […]


Why I Miss the Stepmom

If someone told me eight years ago that I would be missing my children’s stepmom I would have told them they are freaken crazy. No way in the world could I ever miss that lady. The struggles, arguments, and disagreements were enough to make anyone pull their hair out. Walking […]

Pensive Stepmom

Stepmom Thinking

Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed with comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public.  I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me, and the list goes on.  This preoccupation has taken much of my time, happiness and […]


Their Stepmum is More Exciting Than You and You Have to Accept That

New family. It’s not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imagining how your life might be as a grown up. You don’t ever really want to end up sharing your own children’s weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact […]

Stepmum chasing Stepson