Stepmum/Mum


Why I Miss the Stepmom

If someone told me eight years ago that I would be missing my children’s stepmom I would have told them they are freaken crazy. No way in the world could I ever miss that lady. The struggles, arguments, and disagreements were enough to make anyone pull their hair out. Walking […]

Pensive Stepmom

Stepmom Thinking

Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed about comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public.  I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me, and the list goes on.  This preoccupation has taken much of my time, happiness and […]


Their Stepmum is More Exciting Than You and You HAVE to Accept That

New family. It’s not what you lay in bed dreaming of when you were small and imaging how your life might be as a grown up. You don’t ever really want to end up sharing your own children’s weekends with another woman (or man) only linked to you by virtue of the fact […]

Stepmum chasing Stepson

Shutting ex out

6 Steps for Setting Boundaries with Your Partner’s High Conflict Ex

Setting boundaries for your partner’s high conflict ex can be a huge problem for couples and their blended family. The importance of appropriate boundaries is imperative for the success of your relationship and its longevity. My husband and I married over 4 years ago. During the first couple years he […]


Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]

Stepmum and ex shaking hands

Stepmom putting hand out

Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Exes and their Pattern of Dysfunction

When dealing with a High-Conflict Ex (HCE), it’s imperative to not get caught up in their constant complaining, negativity and attacks. From my experience, there is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern keeps my husband and I from getting sucked into the […]