Stepchildren


Surviving the Stepdaughter War

My stepdaughter Amy is eleven, and has a war raging within her.  It surfaced this weekend. “That’s not how mom makes potatoes,” she told me as I slid the roasting pan into the oven before dinner. After her shower, she came downstairs, long hair dripping down her back. She held up […]

Stepmom and step daughter lying on the floor smiling

Stepfamily playing in the park

Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that’s probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led […]


The Importance of Structure and Consistency in the Lives of Children

Through my own experience with my stepdaughters, and with many years in the education system, I have learned the value of structure and consistency for children. Learnersdictionary.com defines structure as, “the quality of something that is carefully planned, organized, and controlled.” Structure allows children to feel safe. According to Aha Parenting, “Structure […]

Stepfamily reading

Stepmom and stepdaughter

Why It’s Okay To Love Your Stepchildren Like Your Own – And What That Really Means

Throughout my stepparenting journey, I’ve faced road blocks, bad attitudes, careless words, and just plain ignorance. And much of this negativity came from other adults ― not my stepchild. Due to my experiences, I’ve come to an interesting realization in regard to how we as a society, perceive the stepparent […]


Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps – when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist: Nature or Nurture? A large proportion of my coaching career has been spent studying narcissistic […]

Narcissistic stepchild

Stepmom and stepson

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Wow! Ever feel like your stepchild doesn’t like you? This can be a constant feeling.  A feeling that creeps up then leaves as quick as it came. Or if you are lucky, something you hardly, if ever, have to deal with. Me, I’m in the middle. One day I feel […]