Stepchildren


The Importance of Structure and Consistency in the Lives of Children

Through my own experience with my stepdaughters, and with many years in the education system, I have learned the value of structure and consistency for children. Learnersdictionary.com defines structure as, “the quality of something that is carefully planned, organized, and controlled.” Structure allows children to feel safe. According to Aha Parenting, “Structure […]

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Why It’s Okay To Love Your Stepchildren Like Your Own – And What That Really Means

Throughout my stepparenting journey, I’ve faced road blocks, bad attitudes, careless words, and just plain ignorance. And much of this negativity came from other adults ― not my stepchild. Due to my experiences, I’ve come to an interesting realization in regard to how we as a society, perceive the stepparent […]


Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps – when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist: Nature or Nurture? A large proportion of my coaching career has been spent studying narcissistic […]

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It’s Not You, It’s Me

Wow! Ever feel like your stepchild doesn’t like you? This can be a constant feeling.  A feeling that creeps up then leaves as quick as it came. Or if you are lucky, something you hardly, if ever, have to deal with. Me, I’m in the middle. One day I feel […]


How my Stepson Changed the Way I Parent

I consider the bond I have built with my stepson to be one of the most important and meaningful relationships of my life. I also consider him to be one of the major influences in how I parent my own daughter. In the beginning of my step-parenting journey, I didn’t […]

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They Just Want to Fit in – Part 3

Part 3. As a step dad, I found some ways to help my step kids feel like they fit in to our blended family. Being a step dad to 3 great kids motivated me to show them that they belong in our family, that I believe in them and that […]