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Shifting Your Perspective on Your Stepkids’ Bad Attitude

Being a parent is hard. Personally, it’s one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had. But I think being a stepparent is even harder. Research shows that relationship challenges with the stepchildren is one of the top two challenges for stepmoms. The dynamics of relationships with our stepkids (skids) is so complex and multifaceted. There […]

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The Importance of Structure and Consistency in the Lives of Children

Through my own experience with my stepdaughters, and with many years in the education system, I have learned the value of structure and consistency for children. Learnersdictionary.com defines structure as, “the quality of something that is carefully planned, organized, and controlled.” Structure allows children to feel safe. According to Aha Parenting, “Structure and routines teach kids how […]

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Why It’s Okay To Love Your Stepchildren Like Your Own – And What That Really Means

Throughout my stepparenting journey, I’ve faced road blocks, bad attitudes, careless words, and just plain ignorance. And much of this negativity came from other adults ― not my stepchild. Due to my experiences, I’ve come to an interesting realization in regard to how we as a society, perceive the stepparent role in a child’s life. […]

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Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps – when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist: Nature or Nurture? A large proportion of my coaching career has been spent studying narcissistic personality disorder and helping those […]

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8 Tips for Liking Your Stepchild – When you Don’t

For years, I thought I didn’t like kids. It turns out I just didn’t like badly-behaved kids. But then again, who does? The kids’ parents, that’s who! The biological bond enables parents to love, forgive and accept their children—even in the worst scenarios. Most stepparents aren’t capable of that, so they find themselves struggling with […]

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Helping your step teenager deal with the ‘big issues’

The ‘big issues’ facing today’s teenagers may not immediately be obvious. Drugs, alcohol, sex and relationships have traditionally been the things parents worry about, but also high on the list of today’s problems facing teenagers are gaming addiction, online bullying and mental health. The basis for helping your step teenager to deal with these issues […]

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Financial Equality: Is Fairness Necessary When it Comes to the Children?

There is one aspect of stepfamily life that can generate a lot of heat: money.  Everyone knows that finances are a common stressor among stepfamilies.  Many fathers have children with previous partners and must pay child support or alimony. Contrary, some remarried mothers receive child support from their ex-partners.  One thing is for certain; each […]