Stepchildren


Parental Alienation Is Also a Stepparent Issue

The concept of “parental alienation” has gathered more notice in recent times as more parents and experts are examining what it is and how it affects both children and adults. The increase in awareness is a positive move in the right direction, as the problem has a significant impact on […]

Child witnessing parents arguing

Father and Daughter Hugging

Saying Goodbye: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Years ago, when we first began sharing custody, I dreaded the time my children were with their father. I missed them terribly, and transitions triggered all my grief and guilt about our divorce. I felt like a part-time parent and the days were excruciatingly long. As the time came for […]


Coming Home: Custody Transition Do’s and Don’ts

Over the years, Billy and I have shared custody many different ways.  We’ve bird nested, alternated every two days, spent time in a 2/5/5/2, and most recently, adopted a week to week schedule.  While when the children change homes has varied throughout our coparenting journey, how they feel coming home on transition day […]

Teenagers Packing

Stepchildren being naughty

Shifting Your Perspective on Your Stepkids’ Bad Attitude

Being a parent is hard. Personally, it’s one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had. But I think being a stepparent is even harder. Research shows that relationship challenges with the stepchildren is one of the top two challenges for stepmoms. The dynamics of relationships with our stepkids (skids) is […]


Surviving the Stepdaughter War

My stepdaughter Amy is eleven, and has a war raging within her.  It surfaced this weekend. “That’s not how mom makes potatoes,” she told me as I slid the roasting pan into the oven before dinner. After her shower, she came downstairs, long hair dripping down her back. She held up […]

Stepmom and step daughter lying on the floor smiling

Stepfamily playing in the park

Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that’s probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led […]