Stepmum


15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling as a stepmom and needed […]

Couple Talking

Stepmom & Stepson

You Don’t Have To Call Me Mom

So many moments, events, and relationships in this world seem to require labels or categories. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you having fun? Are you single? Are you married? Are you a mom? It’s natural for people to want to make sense of the world by labeling the people, […]


How to Live with People Who Hate You

I fell in love with and married a man who has six children. That’s right – his six plus my two make a family of ten, one loud dog and a few neglected fish. The kids range in age from nine to twenty-two. When we add in a few boyfriends, […]

Teenage girl not listening to stepmom

Pensive Stepmom

The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]


An Egg By Any Other Name: What to Call a Stepparent

I go by many names and titles. I am Audrey: a wife, mother, friend, writer, and case manager among many others. I answer to different names depending on the situation or who I’m dealing with. A name is more than just a word used for identification, it also incorporates relationships […]

Stepmom and Daughter Smiling at Each Other

Happy Family

Why I Use the Term “Step”

It seems that lately, I have heard a lot of stepmoms saying “I don’t use the word ‘step’ when talking about my stepkids”. I think there are two reasons for this. One is that there are some families and situations where a woman truly does see her stepchildren as her […]