Erin Careless

Why I Use the Term “Step”

It seems that lately, I have heard a lot of stepmoms saying “I don’t use the word ‘step’ when talking about my stepkids”. I think there are two reasons for this. One is that there are some families and situations where a woman truly does see her stepchildren as her […]

Happy Family

Stressed Stepmom

When “Step” Means Step Back

  I love to laugh. Laughing is my favorite. And I’ve been told on more than one occasion that my laugh is quite recognizable for its volume and intensity. So the day my husband said, “It’s good to hear that laugh again”, it hit me. Time to take stock. What […]

Sharing the Love

With the birth of my little girl three months ago, I’ve reflected a lot on families and family dynamics; in between breastfeeding, changing diapers and reading “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?” of course. And I’ve come to realize something. Some of the biggest challenges of steplife boil […]

Parents and Children

Stepmom relaxing at Christmas

The Steplife 12 Days of Christmas Tips for Holiday Peace!

Tip 1: Plan in Advance It is often the ‘unknown’ that causes stress, so sit down with your partner and make a plan – be sure to coordinate with the biological mom. Tip 2: Loosen Schedules (a little bit) We can get very ‘schedule focused’, especially when we see kids […]

Stepmom vs. Stepdad: What’s the Difference?

I’ve read the books, I’ve read and written the blogs, I’ve talked to many, many stepmoms. Even those who have “a great situation” struggle with their role – a role which often shifts and changes. So what is it that makes this so hard? We talk about feeling like an […]

Stepmom Vs Stepdad


An Open Letter to my Stepfather

To my Stepfather: Thank you for sticking with me. I was a teenager when we met. You came into my life at a time of change, attempted independence, and confusion over my parents’ separation. Anger greeted you for the first time. Rebellion refused to eat dinner with you and Mom. […]